ladies~
have you lost respect for, or did you think less of a guy after seeing him cry? not just any guy—specifically, a significant other.
why or why not?
is it contextual?
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i would think less of someone who looked down on someone for crying 😾
i was told this is "common knowledge," but i don't think i've ever met a woman who would feel that way.
like, i'm sure some women do, but i don't think it's "common." but idk
The absolute opposite. Love and respect to someone, especially a man, that can connect with their emotions and allow themselves to feel. Happy tears, sad tears, emotional tears altogether.
I think the only exception for me is when I've experienced manipulative crying, but even then I didn't lose respect.
On the other hand, I lose respect for women who can't tolerate or see weakness in a man crying 😂
i tend to believe this is how most women feel.
that's a really good point about manipulative crying. that's kinda why i think context matters.
thanks for sharing, as always, Juls~! :3
They lose attraction from seeing it, which is the most important thing you need them to have for you. Sure, women will say they want a more emotionally sharing man, because that's the socially acceptable answer, but in reality, that's not what they desire. They want a protector, not a cry buddy.
hmmm
this has no been my experience at all. but i've only been with one Woman...
i would say that the times i've cried didn't have an intention or energy of "fix me please," but more of "this is how i feel. i will not hide it from You." these moments brought us much closer together.
No. It's really rare, tho. Would be weird if he got all weepy on a regular basis. I don't need the competition.
I have a grab bag of experiences in this. My first serious boyfriend would often cry but it was purely manipulative because he knew I'd forgive him and stop talking about his misdeed if he acted remorseful. At the time I didn't lose respect for him but in hindsight 🙄 I think on it and lose respect for myself 😅
My second serious boyfriend I only saw cry a few times, for example when his family dog died and other appropriate times. One time we took mushrooms and he caught a glimpse of the moonlight sparkling in broken glass in the gutter which was to him at that time beautiful and poignant. I did think that was pretty silly, but in an adorable poetic way and I did not lose respect for him at all but did tease him over it.
My last serious boyfriend I never saw cry even once, and we were together for five years which ended in the pandemic when he lost his business, his lifestyle, and finally his father. I'm glad it ended because even though I loved him that was a huge red flag. Crying sometimes is normal because we are all human 🥲