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I had the worst year of my life a couple years ago after 15 years of devoting my whole life to my wife. I’ve stayed strong despite what she did and decided I didn’t want my three boys to go through the same type of childhood I did with a part time father. While my life will

Never be the same and I struggle occasionally with my own happiness, I enjoy connecting with others and work hard to build a good future for my kids. They deserve it regardless of another adult’s misjudgment. Find something you love to do and just and live 🙏Enjoyed reading this note and wish you all the best 🙏🧡

Noerms 2y ago

Oh boy, divorce is also on my list 😅

Had some really hard years with that too. Especially before i decided to finally end it. I have no kids yet but i can only imagine how hard it must be with kids involved. So good to here about your mindset and i think your kids will extremely benefit from that 🙏

What does not kill us, makes us stronger 💪

#[3] i am sure in a few months or years you will look back to this stage in your life and be thankful to have had this chance to grow. I was with every hurdle.

Imagine never having problems in your live. How would you grow emotionally?

A nice anecdote i heard regarding this was about fatherhood. I am not a father yet nor do i believe in god (at least not the Christian way) but it helped me: imagine god as a loviing father. As any father he would recognize the potential in his kids and give the kids harder lessons in regards to their potential 😊🙏💜

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tanel 2y ago

Yeah but I’m tired of it being so volatile for me. I don’t think my father would give me so much false promises, as my euphoria episodes make me feel💜

Noerms 2y ago

I only can imagine how this feels. Nit know anyone who has that personally.

Generally i think life comes in waves for everyone 🌊

Yours seem to be shorter/faster and higher. Others may have their waves drawn out pretty long. But in the end i think their is no better or worse. Its like enjoying a pipe. Some ppl like to smoke it hot abd fast others do it slowly and just keep it smoking for a long time. Their is never the right way. There is always just your way. And you have to figure out how to play the cards you were dealt the best.

Unfortunately nobody can tell you and everyone has to find out on their own 😔🙏💜

tanel 2y ago

It’s really tiring, because I just don’t really fit in well with the “normal” world that drives on stable people🫶

Noerms 2y ago

I feel i have the exact opposite problem 😅 often i feel too „stable“. I find it very hard to be spontaneous and i have problems enjoying life. I live mostly in my head. I have the drawn out long waves more 🌊

But in regards to fitting in i also heard that it is normal to have less friends the higher your iq is. I don’t know what was the reason, but seems to be also a general pattern of life

tanel 2y ago

#[5] recommended timeblocking earlier for work. Don’t think I could ever do it, as I never know how I’m going to feel at any time with my constant mood changes🤷‍♂️ Gonna have a really different and much tougher life experience than most of y’all, but let’s see💜

jb55 2y ago

if you find your mind wandering the timeblock is a visual action plan that you can always refer to and it keeps you on track

tanel 2y ago

What do you use for it and how do you use it? Might try it out for a day or two, and then report back

Vanessa 2y ago

Agreed with #[5] . Time blocking is key to staying on track despite distractions. I use just my calendar and adjust blocks only when absolutely needed. It helps to start with one day or week at a time. For work I also rely on ‘inbox zero’.

The-FewBTC 2y ago

Followed and ⚡️🧡

tanel 2y ago

What’s “inbox zero” 🤔?

Vanessa 2y ago

This is old but I remember someone showed me years ago and I found it interesting but essentially it’s all about filing emails appropriately (things you can deal with next week, in a month, etc), taking care of any right away that can easily then be deleted (out of sight, out of mind) and then getting your inbox as close to empty as possible by the end of your day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9UjeTMb3Yk

tanel 2y ago

Hmm, an interesting idea.

Fortunately I don’t have enough of work emails to have this problem yet

But, I will absolutely keep this in mind for the future

Thank you so much for the elaboration, Vanessa 💜💜

Noerms 2y ago

You have to tide the waves as they come 🏄‍♂️

tanel 2y ago

Yeah, sometimes that means doing meaningful work at 3 AM🤷‍♂️

Noerms 2y ago

💯💪

Noerms 2y ago

Also what was really a gamechanger for me is gratitude. You can easily get caught up in a spiral of negative thoughts and emotions. By starting and ending your day with concious focus on the positive things in your life you slowly but steady rearrange the wires in your head and get more positive day by day. Try a diary or something if it helps.

And there are positive aspects everywhere. You just have to look for them in your life. I think even the things you hate the most in your life have a positive side. Everything has. Thats yin and yang ☯️ of life. And it also means: the deeper the valeys, the higher the mountains … ☀️

Frappy 2y ago

🤝well said bro

Noerms 2y ago

Thanks mate 🙏💜 followed 🤙

tanel 2y ago

And huge thanks for the long post, helped me reflect quite a bit 💜

Noerms 2y ago

YW, Every time man 🙏💜

Noerms 2y ago

*any time i mean 😅

tanel 2y ago

💜