Perhaps I can elaborate on what nostr:nprofile1qqsvr6dt8ft292mv5jlt7382vje0mfq2ccc3azrt4p45v5sknj6kkscq9ertq may be thinking. Because I thought this too when I first read it.
The main premise of the book is that ANY aggressive means of parenting is wrong. This includes spanking, yelling, shaming, etc.
I understand the hesitation for this line of thinking, especially in light of what we gen-x people see as a snowflake culture.
I also understand, first hand, the difficulty in trying to rationalize with a child about right and wrong. Especially about complex situations. However...
It was a very helpful guide as i raised my son. It gave me a perspective about how powerful aggressive parenting techniques could be and how easily the could get out of hand. This book tampered me.
Did I ever use "agressive" parenting techniques with my son? Yes, I absolutely did. But only when I felt that it really mattered. 2 times in 28 years if I recall.
1 was when he disrespected his mother
2 when he violated gun safety rules.
Peaceful parenting goes too far. It deprives your children of what they crave: a father. It leaves the mother in charge. This book was written by a father of a daughter. Not all children are the same, but what I can guarantee you is if you listen to Stefan's insistence as gospel in this books regard, and you don't have a compliant child, you will be afraid to do your duty as a father in reproof and correction. This breeda contempt, and you will have a mess on your hands, only different than whay Stefan warns of. The book is correct in that you must not lose control of yourself, beat, condescend, or anything that is not fit of a respectible man, but so long as you act in love and in stewardahip of your children's youth, you will do fine.
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