I was physically disciplined as a kid. I don't think it made me better or more well behaved. It was the adult's way of expressing their anger or frustration.

As a parent now, I wouldn't hit my child, ever. My emotional dysregulation is not their problem. I'm the adult and I should have the capacity to step back from roiling emotions of both me and my child, assess the situation and determine an effective way to help them understand why their behavior is not okay and what they should do instead, in an age appropriate, developmentally appropriate way.

I give our previous generations a pass. They honestly didn't know better but now we do. We have the entire Internet and can freely access so much information on childhood development, human psychology and behavior. We understand mental well being and mental health so much better now. Anyone still resorting to violence to teach their kids are frankly living in the stone age.

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Glad to see a few people are talking sense in this thread 🤙

I feel like if nothing else, I have a pretty damn good playbook for what not to do when I become a parent.

I said this below, but I'll reiterate that I hope when / if I become a parent I'll find ways to do things without violence I genuinely do not want my own kid to grow up the same way I did.

Therapy has taught me that a lot of my Habits were primarily based on fear. And while being polite and clean are good things, I adopted those behaviors because I didn't want to get my ass kicked.