My kids clean up after themselves and I've never spanked them.
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Kids who are spanked tend to have the most behavior problems *because* they are spanked, despite the efforts of abusive parents to see it as the other way around. It raises cortisol levels & reduces IQ, among many other negatives.
I used to disagree, I had belts, wooden spoons, and the occasional fist as a kid. I raised my kids with none of that, and after studying psychology I realize in a very real way my upbringing did me no favors.
Good on you for breaking the cycle 🫂
all forms of trauma anchoring, aka brain washing, reduce IQ.
cults are always stupid and useless, like in the cliche of bad guys' crews because they have had their creativity beaten out of them.
Kids want their parents to be proud of them. If you show them the right thing to do they'll do it most of the time. Let them know you're proud of them when they do right. A mistake is a mistake. Help them focus on fixing the mistake and move on. Express disappointment when they willfully make the wrong choice, but don't overdo it. A little goes a long way. You don't have to make them feel like shit. And you definitely don't have to hit them.