the religious part is important to me. not the state/government.
Discussion
I personally think a marriage contract is a bad incentive but I can see why some people want it for religious reasons.
Marriage is a particularly bad deal for men. But yeah, for Christians, it’s mandatory if you want that kind of lifestyle. Since the Bible recommends men stay single, and because the whole “marriage and family” lifestyle always struck be as particularly unappealing anyway, I did exactly that.
i was blessed with a good deal in faith and forgiveness
I got a bad deal unfortunately
Marriage is a 50/50 shot. And a good fraction of the ones that don’t end in divorce are pretty friggin’ miserable. The reward/risk ratio is unattractive.
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And the marriage leads to people taking each other for granted which is bad for any romantic relationship.
There are some scenarios where I can see marriage benefiting a woman, but virtually no such scenarios for a man. The only time I’d recommend it is if the man wants kids. Kids stand a better chance with married parents. But for those of us who are blissfully childfree, it seems like a horrible arrangement with lots of cons and zero pros.
I think raising children without a marriage certificate is better for the kids because women are not incentivized to leave the marriage and take all the money. Unless they do a prenup beforehand, marriage is actually bad for kids imo.
I want a family but don’t want a marriage if that makes sense
I would like to make a little wager with you regarding this statement. I say you'll change your mind about it in one cycle or less. A bottle of your choosing. 🐸
especially when my God teaches truth about my and others hearts