You are not. Took me a bit and some help from Uncle nostr:npub1j8y6tcdfw3q3f3h794s6un0gyc5742s0k5h5s2yqj0r70cpklqeqjavrvg

You need Chrome and need to download a chrome extension (nos2x) and then "setup" i.e. pass/grant private keys, setup relays, and I believe one other thing toggled to on.

I should have clarified that I use primal as my primary to see what the heck is going on in nostr and then bounce to Iris (like here) to respond to folks in my notifications.