So when you zap someone, is the application you use for zapping which decides which relays the zap receipt will be sent to. If you can isolate one particular outgoing zap from your application, I should be able to get the zap receipt and we can look at it together and see what's up.
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I just zapped you both. I'm sorry I don't know enough to be very helpful.
I see in the wallet not in notifications. I don’t even see this note in notifications. One other thing that could help is just add this relay wss://sendit.nosflare.com
It’s a blastr relay. It will broadcast your notes to many relays. It’s free
You've almost doubled my active relays. Lol I appreciate you, sir.
The ones who are red, are they ever green? If not I would remove those
Roundrock and relayable have been green at some points. I honestly rarely ever check relays. Nostr definitely requires effort and attention to be usable, and that's gonna keep a lot of normies from adoption.