I am with you on that. Also the self love topic is a much bigger than I ever imagined. What I feel deeper is self respect. Don’t love me everyday. But I am able now to forgive myself and don’t let the high expectations if others be my fuel.
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Self love is key to be able to love another. You can always love self and others, but we must never forget we are humans, not Gods....we cannot be happy all the time and loving all the time. We fluctuate. What is important is not to let the worst moments to derail into a narrative hence a way of living. We must push forward and up always. Acceptance is the most important factor, for me in not respect, is acceptance of what is.
I can feel that very much, remembering this : To accept one’s past – one’s history – is not the same thing as drowning in it; it is learning how to use it. An invented past can never be used; it cracks and crumbles under the pressures of life like clay in a season of drought.
James Baldwin
My experiences are far from being good. But I learned with them major lessons and many things I am grateful. The most important one to have self love and self esteem. To never accept less than is being given, on a regular basis. To not keep quiet when disrespect is being presented. To walk away when people can't see nor appreciate what is being offered.
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Actually, the saying „if it’s meant to be“ has a different meaning or interpretation in the German area, namely that fate has made a decision for you, for example to bring two people together, and that one submits to it. „Where there's a will, there's a way“ -is here linked to clear free will and actin. Two opposing principles ?
The universe itself is duality and paradoxly. I don't see it as opposite. Like you well said, nothing just is! Nothing will fall into our lap if we do nothing. Everything in this world needs intention and action. A masculine that does not take initiative will not be able to keep a feminine even if ment to be. No feminine with standards will chase after a masculine...that's kids , immature behaviour, or even worse, codependency that leads to very unhealthy dynamics. Chasing is one thing, taking initiative another. Sometimes I think people mix both.
I get perplexed when people think that manifestation is just you think and happens. Puff, magic. It's a good excuse not to act. If people don't demonstrate and make the other feel appreciated and if we don't make the other a priority in life, people will leave, even if ment to be. Hence, if there is will there is a way. It's complementary.
I have heard a lot of men that lost and regret some female in their life because they were not in a good place, still attached to an ex, or hurt because of an ex. What if the woman they reject was their match, and not the one they think it was ?
What if , like you said, the fate bring two people together, and one reject the other, because one of them still healing from an unhealthy connection, and totally unaware of this, still thinks that the unhealthy ex, was the one???
We humans, sometimes get stuck in what we do not have. As soon as we get it...bored...
Well said! It's unfortunate, but we are a walking contradiction. But no matter the circumstances, when two people meet and feel comfortable or save with each other, it's the beginning of something good.
Our attempts to alter societal norms often seem foolish at first, which can leave both sides feeling confused and anxious. While certain aspects definitely need to evolve, I feel that one traditional element will always remain: men /the masculine typically takes the lead in seeking to know women/the feminine better. Like you said, my experiences also told me that this is the most natural way.
Oh ..the topic manifestation. You are so right! Don’t get me started. 😆 It is so much more than funny lill rituals.
Thank you for the enlightening conversation. 🌺