They weren't assholes, they were OG maxis in the sense that they were absolutely uncompromising in everything they tried to do, and they were very vocal about that fact - For better or wose.
That is, until they turned to Monero for some extra help on the privacy front becausee Bitcoin wasn't moving as fast they'd like/
Most people however, seem to confuse lack of compromise (and absolute maximalism, especially at a time when maximalism wasn't a popular term) with arrogance.
Personally, I find it sad and absolutely disrespectful to call them assholes when 10 years later their now dead-in-the-water wallet seems to be the ONLY wallet in the Bitcoin ecosystem to apply certain privacy techniques you just don't see anywhere else. That's the real sad part. It's a huge loss for Bitcoin in general.