hi, fren~!

this is an excellent question, and one i can dive deeply into and take in so many different directions. i'll try and keep it brief though. :3

i think it's somewhat relatable—having a space where you can give up control. however, this becomes more of a space for escapism than actual surrender. being a sub in a lifestyle arrangement doesn't typically equate to being passive, making no decisions, or losing agency. maybe during play—or maybe sessions with a pro this is more accurate..?

the second one, i'm not a really a jerk, so it doesn't resonate at all.

the third is also relatable—i do find it highly erotic in some contexts, but this is an oversimplification. and a sole focus on the kink and fetish aspect lends itself more to selfishness than true surrender.

for me, it's something more than a space to relinquish control—it's something in my wiring; it feels like an innate desire to please. but more than that it's a space where i feel safe to stop "performing" and to be vulnerable. to take the mask off and not just be seen, but be claimed.

there is an aching within me give myself totally, completely, unequivocally, to Her. to place my heart, my soul, my everything at Her feet. it's more than just a space—it's an unrivaled connection...

tldr: this is more of a lifestyle for me, so while there are aspects and moments that relieve pressure and stress, it's truly about the connection it brings. ^^