Nostr Web Client

Replying to

Noshole

GM.

I still feel sad and like I’m living in someone else’s dream.

To everyone who’s lost a parent:

1.) how long did it take to feel real?

2.) what things helped you grieve?

jamw 1y ago

🫂

1. Takes time - different for different people and the relationship they had with the parent. Lost mine to cancer when I was quite young (never really got to know him as an adult) which made the feeling real process perhaps shorter. Never really goes though, but the grief is definitely replaced by the happy memories and moments you will naturally recall.

2. For me it was letting the grief in; not resisting it, but also balancing it with doing enjoyable activities - being active (cycling and sport), being around friends, travelling. Doing stuff you know would make him proud.

Reply to this note

Please Login to reply.

Discussion

Noshole 1y ago

Oooo this made me cry. I haven’t really balanced anything yet, but I’m really comforted by the idea of still making him proud🥰

jamw 1y ago

Yes, and I like a lot of what nostr:npub13fce6s3x325jta439097ddj97mkg9mlxf6kfrkhexh7uenclpljs7atdfx said especially about remembering the little mad things they did. The painful, sharp grief you feel now has to happen but it will subside. Occupying my mind with small, short tasks also helped me kinda take breaks from the immediate grieving.

Noshole 1y ago

I haven’t been doing that. I’ve just been kind of stewing in sadness. Maybe it’s time a make a small list of a few things to do today 🤔

Gigi 1y ago

Writing helped me a lot. Composting my thoughts. And crying. Lots of crying.

Noshole 1y ago

Logically I know writing would help, but I’ve been subconsciously avoiding it because it helps a little too much sometimes. I’m a super sensitive/big cryer as it is, but you’re right. I need to grow the balls to deal with it

SwBratcher 1y ago

Best and most accurate typo I’ve seen this month.