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1. It still doesn’t 17 years later

2. Time

I’m sorry

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Its not easy honey. I was 27, which is near youragee but I was alone. Lost a year of my life. You have loved ones with you, which will help. You never really get over it, you learn to live with it.

You WILL be OK sweetheart.

I lost my Dad to cancer , saw him during treatment and hair loss . I didn't visit him in Canada or go to his funeral as I wanted to remember him as he was which hurt my Mum even though they had divorced , he'd met and was living with someone else .

Starts to feel hard on birthdays , Christmas initially. Looking at photos is both sad and weird but he lives on through me, my brother , my mum and his grandchildren . Time and memories of him in my heart and growing up I realise , what a good life on this earth and we'll meet again in the future 💜

Lost my dad in january 2020

1. sometimes it doesn't feel real after almost 5 years

2. time, good memories and the knowledge that he meant a lot to me and that I learned a lot from him

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1. Takes time - different for different people and the relationship they had with the parent. Lost mine to cancer when I was quite young (never really got to know him as an adult) which made the feeling real process perhaps shorter. Never really goes though, but the grief is definitely replaced by the happy memories and moments you will naturally recall.

2. For me it was letting the grief in; not resisting it, but also balancing it with doing enjoyable activities - being active (cycling and sport), being around friends, travelling. Doing stuff you know would make him proud.

1) Everything ebbs and flows, including the reality of the situation

2) Seeing and touching his dead body

Sending many hugs, and remember to give yourself time 🫂

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Good morning. It is so important to feel this emptiness, this void. This is part of the grief. Take as much time as you need.

Maybe it helps to talk to friends, write about it, go out into nature, light a candle for the loved ones who have gone. This way you can feel that they are still close to you. Death is just the letting go of the vessel (physical). The soul lives forever and is on a new journey.

Sending you a big hug and love and light 💛

Haven’t lost a parent yet but we value meaning from life as humans. Our parents are our first relationships as children. They try to teach us right from wrong. But they aren’t perfect. They are learning and changing at the same time we are as children. For example, your parents are not the same people they were when you were 5 years old compared to when you were 15 years old. They are different people but the memories live with you forever. The values and lessons they taught you are part of you. Whatever they are: kindness, patience, honesty, etc. They may be physically gone but those values are still with you. And when you live by those values, they are still living with you. And that’s how you honor them in the best way. So sorry for your loss 🫂

First, I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

1. it never really does, or at least hasn't for me after 10+ years. "real" means something different now.

2. letting it happen

I have many friends who have lost parents after I did. What mattered the most to me was support and I never had it, so I wanted to make sure I could be there for my friends after it happened. Don't be afraid to ask a close friend(s) (especially one that has lost a parent too) to help you even with the most basic things for a little while. If you have children, I don't think you should completely hide your grief from them either. Try your best to be understanding of your friends and family they don't know what to do to help, don't be afraid to be up front with them, tell them what will help you. Making dinners, going shopping for you, taking your kids for the weekend or to their activities for you once and a while. Take some time off work, don't be afraid to go somewhere but understand that you might not enjoy it. If your parent was older, keep in mind you may have a lot of paperwork to handle, take your time, it can be very overwhelming, again ask for help but don't be too naive!

The one thing that worked for me, was just to keep moving. Don't stop, practice patience, and when grief comes on, it's going to happen and you can't control it. For me it's usually the simplest things that bring it on. You must learn your triggers and tools that help you cope when grief comes on so you can feel confident in public or at work and so on.

To me the most important thing I learned is that you cannot control grief and you should not try to control it, it will only make it more difficult to carry. It will happen when you least expect it, and when it's the most disruptive.

You can do it. One day at a time, one step at a time. And when you are ready, take it, 5 days at a time, 10 days and so on. Go back to baby steps when you need to, but you will need to progress and continue looking past the right now!

I hope this helps.

Lost my mom just barely a year ago after a long road with alzheimers.

The grief surprised me with it's strength.

The thing I learned was not to fight it, wrestle with it or deny it. When I remember just to feel it, allow it and accept it I do much better.

God bless you on this journey sweet girl bat. ❤️

I think it's different for everyone. Grief doesn't have a set time 🫂🫂

1.) When you think of them and don't immediately have a need to see or call them. (That for me was quite a long time)

2.) It's a tough call in a parasocial environment. But I would say (if you are a really strong person looking to feel more normal) immerse yourself in memories of them until you feel terrible but not suicidal. Then give yourself at least a month to try to not think of them. Then when you are ready to immerse yourself again, don't just look through pictures or a video and realize you don't feel terrible like you did before. That good feeling of a beautiful memory with them leads you to feel good when a fleeting memory goes through your mind instead of the spiral it likely is right now.

That's the best I've got, lost my dad in '07 and that's what I did. I hope you have an easier time than I did.

I lost my mom 2 years ago. It was very tough but it does get better. Remember the good times. Put together a nice photo album. Keep yourself busy & distracted. Their spirit will never die within you.

it's a personal process for each person and loss

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It's been about 3-1/2 years since I lost my Dad. It's going to take time, that's for sure. It's really hard at first dealing with all the stuff - the regrets, the missed opportunities, the empty part that they filled when they were here. And, maybe it never goes away completely, but as time goes by you realize this will happen to all of us at some point. We only fill a very small part of this thing called humanity. I still miss my Dad, but I have faith that the time will come when through God's mercy I will be united with my Dad and many other loved ones for all eternity. That brings me a great deal of peace even while I still grieve at the loss.

Hi. I'm a little late to this post, but I just wanted to offer my condolences🫂.

Both my parents are still alive but I feel as if I can help by telling you how I coped with my wife's death. We were married for 11 years💑.

1. It's different for all and everyone handles grief differently. After being discharged, I felt kind of "hollow" for a pretty long period of time, feeling as if I wasted ten years fighting in wars that were never meant to end. My wife and kids were really the only thing that helped me assimilate back into the real world after becoming so detached from everything. After that, I was very happy for the next four years or so, but all of that emptiness returned after her death. I DID NOT handle it well, at all, and, tbh, I'm still a bit ashamed of how I acted in front of my kids, at times (something I can only hope that they don't remember). Then I started drinking very heavily (something I'm not proud of), again, for a little while until my parents, sister, and friends helped me get back on the right path. Tbh, I didnt really care much, at first, for their emotional support, I didn't really find it comforting, but rather bothersome. But, they did convince me to quit drinking during the grieving process, which helped a lot. And it wasn't until after that that I really started to think more clearly, and came to realize that my wife would be furious at me if I just lied around, drank, and sulked 24/7 in a state of self-pity. So, I did my best to get everything back to normal with my kids, like taking them to school and sports practice and stuff. But, even to this day I still feel a little of that hollowness from her death. The point is that you might never feel whole again, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Feeling that way so long after someone's death just proves how much you still love them. Dealing with grief in a way that you know is healthy for yours and others well-being is how you become "real" again☺️🫂.

2. Staying sober and constantly thinking about how my wife would care for our children if I was the one that died. And finally, just living everyday life with my kids. Doing a bunch of normie stuff and all that with them and friends and family.