Thinking drugs are fantastic if you go into them with intention and moderation (not of amount but of frequency of use)🤷🏽

I think I'll try mushrooms

Where do you buy them from?

I am talking in the macro scale. John Doe down the street is relevant to his family and the people in his work/community. But he is clearly mot relevant to the country or culturally.

Same goes to bitcoiners. Very few are actually relevant to the world/culture at large and that’s fine.

GENTS.

HAVE YOU CONSIDERED DELETING YOUR X ACCOUNTS TODAY?

Most in the “spotlight” always have been and the rest definitely are, were, and will be irrelevant. The circle jerking has deluded many nostr:note1kteuqurtg2f52adxlkl4q7hlyk0mu2h774gfz5kse38rc7tjl60sfd0ee3

When I grow up I want to become a ghost.

GM

> “I've always been that guy people hang out with, but never a part of the "inner circle" or whatever.”

Dude. Number of times last week I was like “gotta go talk to mandrik … but maybe I’m not cool enough.”

Cause also, I’m friendly with most people, but never been “inner circle”. Also, I can be insensitive to “social norms” and have been ostracized for no better reason than being “too friendly”.

People are weird … how complicated we make being social, when ALL of us really only want good friends.

💜

We need more men to acknowledge this truth and to commit to “not bottling it all up anymore”. Thanks for being a great example - especially for your daughters. They will have high standards for men

I've had a similar outcome as mandrik, but with a somewhat different context. It's something I still think about a lot.

When I was an engineer/manager, I worked in person, and had a great social group there. After I left it, I became inherently remote-work based in my home office, which has a lot of advantages but also some social isolation-related challenges.

I then gradually drifted away from work-friends I knew for a decade. Between work and family, we just gradually could barely find time for a group lunch anymore. Actually it was more on their side than mine; they have longer commutes, children, etc.

And my US family is small and dispersed around the country. So aside from my husband, a lot of my social interaction is online and at events within the past few post-covid years. The big exception is the part of the year I spend in Egypt, where I am surrounded by in-person family and friends every day, but have less overall productivity (bad internet for starters, problematic time zone, plus it's also vacation time and social time).

And the most notable part of each year is when I come back to the US first to take care of things here, and my husband is still in Egypt for another month to finish taking care of things there, where I risk turning into a solo cat lady.

So that makes me really focus on genuine internet dynamics, treating people online similarly to how I treat them in real life, building real connections there, going to events to meet my "tribe" despite the travel hassle, etc.

It also has prioritized having children to me recently. I've been focusing on work, focusing on elder care, etc. Due to my starting point, I have been in the position of having to support a parent and then in-laws since my 20s, while also being a workaholic to reach the positions I've gotten to. For years I was simply too busy for anything else, but increasingly the next generation is an element of life I think about a lot.

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You are an inspiration, every dad has much to learn!!

This is my last year

Inspiring

Thanks

Great to meet your family and to finally get some baklava 🤙

Can definitely tell how much effort you've poured into raising your kids as well

This summarizes some recent thoughts of my own well.

involved but it’s not a full time job. It’s time to find your next adventure.

I resonate a lot with your story. Not having "like minded individuals" for friends has been a common struggle in my life.

I have empathy for those that don't see past the facade. The school system, centralized media, and societal norms are strategically organized to produce cogs in the machine.

They likely envy those who pursue independent ventures and earn freedom from it, but lack the knowledge or drive to pursue it themselves. Sports (on tv), drinking, weed, video games, clubs, are often escapes from this frustration, not actual preferences. Not that these things can't be enjoyed sometimes.

So I consider the free thinking mindset a blessing in a world that tries to eliminate it.

We also live in the best timeline to be a free thinker, because the internet connects you to the others who share your niche interests. And with Nostr, they can't take this away from us.

As for "dropping baggage", I don't think it needs an explicit "break up conversation". I just give my energy to people who I feel like giving it to, and don't do things I don't want to do. Besides some family obligations of course. Some people stick around, some don't, and that's okay.

That's just how I handle it, not saying its correct or whatever. Good time to be alive though!