So many people are simply out of capacity for anything else in their lives. It may seem like they don't care or don't remember things. This is not the case for many people. Drama, trauma and chaos has exhausted their capacity and they don't have anything left. This does not apply to toxic people, that's a different video. https://blossom.primal.net/910a84e25b29869d9ab3c5ae10a131543dfa8e6f40fcad767abf97d0b91367ee.mp4

It's an education you'll never forget and one no one ever wants. The only good news with this education is if you study well you'll only need this education once. Unfortunately if we don't do the work, we will probably have to repeat it more than once. Take the time and do the work! You are worth it!

Am I the narcissist? It's definitely the most frequent question people ask me when I talk with them. Almost always the answer is NO! One of the reasons is they are asking the question of themselves. Narcissists do not usually question if they are toxic. We all have some dysfunctional behaviors, but this does not make us a narcissist. Many other things come into play for that to be true. https://blossom.primal.net/9aee0cd0104eaa92aaf99da4229b2a76b365069ecdaea02ebdf7ee8e1c67dd9c.mp4

Toxic people are pretty aware of what they are doing or they wouldn't hide it. These are definitely not things we need to forgive them for, especially when they continue the behavior. Forgiving ourselves is essential. For not seeing right away, for staying or not standing up for ourselves. Allow you to forgive you! https://blossom.primal.net/5f3bbec22e9f78176078608f924b95d60822c0938eb4d9a69cb09c8520a4913a.mp4

It's a gift for us to be able to be there for someone else through their struggles. It can be a distraction from our own healing, which we simply need to be aware of. It can also help us through our own healing at the same time. Allow people to show up for you just as much as you show up for them! https://blossom.primal.net/b3f80123d642741fdd05dbf0710f215ecbbf4588242833e1558e92c9507e23ff.mp4

So many people have all the thoughts about how and what we should do with our lives. Of course, then they also want to tell us these things too. Many are well meaning and some are not. It's ultimately our decision what we actually want to do with our lives. Don't ever let anyone else decide for you about your life! https://blossom.primal.net/241ad982fe57d8c8cb688dcb06a6e7a73844db306e478703c0c0d585b72924d9.mp4

Too many of us fight so hard to try to make relationships work that simply won't. Either because the other person is toxic or they have unhealed wounds. In both cases they fight against you rather than for the relationship. In these situations often all we can do is save ourselves. Don't lose yourself over a relationship!

It’s pretty simple to understand, but not as easy to deal with or actually embrace. The more we understand this, the easier it is to let more of their BS go. Even when they say it's our fault, it’s not. It’s just the way they are. Just because we understand it, still doesn’t make it easy. Go easy on yourself in the process. https://blossom.primal.net/096759c15e1d12d3ec3c230e536fc9a2e26c420e57f1b8588e439d8b1d8b9796.mp4

Testing all your boundaries. That’s what narcissists do. They will test all your boundaries and then test them again. When they find one they can't push past, they will then begin pushing other boundaries. They simply want control over everything in your life. Everything more and nothing less. They will push boundaries until you give in, or they will eventually move on if you don’t. Hold those boundaries tight! https://blossom.primal.net/772afcc516fc8fd07ffb2f9e03f97fcb4beb38591c3a0fb712e1fb5ff37b8b73.mp4

An upward spiral just sounds better and it really is. Taking the time to allow and to learn to recognize our thoughts and emotions is wonderful. It helps us to increase our intuition. This allows us to begin to recognize not only when things don’t feel right, but what doesn’t feel right about them. This then allows us to be able to move through these situations much quicker with much less struggle. https://blossom.primal.net/9c8af5edf7653b3531deb8c3c3db825e9afd8c02e2b9fc8ae37dd047bdf41cae.mp4

You've made it through everything in your life to get you here. It wasn't easy, but you made it. The path in front of you may seem scary, but you have all the skills and knowledge to help you through it that you've developed from the past. These things will also help you move into the future you truly want. Keep going. You are worth it!

Narcissists lie, gaslight, manipulate, control and abuse. It’s what they do and they don’t think anything’s wrong with it. They might be ashamed of getting caught for it, but they’ll deny it anyway. They realize it’s wrong to get caught for doing it. They don’t think it’s wrong to do it though. https://blossom.primal.net/4e06863eb4e178e1b45721de71f5c8c0f8f346e2d0d43312e99dc5d881a0e504.mp4

Forgiving ourselves seems easy and everyone seems to talk about it like you can just go do it. It may be that simple, but it’s not that easy. It's something we allow ourselves to do. It's much more of a process and a practice though. It's not something we just do. It takes time and work. It's something everyone can do though. https://blossom.primal.net/3f23c1859e3acc1256a67cb90b9274dd798566ccc81bb3777b1e27a0306e0706.mp4

We've heard about how bad our narcissist’s exes were. We begin to question how bad they actually were especially after hearing from them how bad we are. This doesn’t mean any of us are innocent, but it makes you wonder how bad their exes actually were. Was this just another projection from the narcissist? Perhaps. The other important thing to realize is that we all get to decide for ourselves our own opinion of everyone including ourselves. https://blossom.primal.net/951be927473fd326dfa263ceee6d7b8a668d503060b7bfe8f370496cf3394240.mp4

The strength and power we have to get through toxic relationships is an incredible thing to hold onto after you get out of these relationships. There are other behaviors that helped us to get through these relationships that can hurt a healthy relationship. Carefully, thoughtfully choose the behaviors you want to take into the next relationship. https://blossom.primal.net/91621ef2242168b74673d05e88b73c091319e9e22f77ec5660c26e92fef10e3a.mp4

The never ending story of narcissistic abuse. Love bombing, devaluing and discard. It leaves us empty and confused. It’s heartbreaking to watch and even worse to be in and live through. End the cycle, you and your future are worth it! You deserve to love yourself and live a life you truly love!

We are probably all considered toxic to some people. Especially if they are toxic themselves. The good people are aware that we don't always do the right things and we own it and work to get better. We can also acknowledge to ourselves that we do care and are working on being better. It's definitely something we can proud of ourselves for. https://blossom.primal.net/6357372675ed003fcf595b3272bced79e3014f0684e7f032656c582164bd3059.mp4

So many of us feel incredibly alone on Christmas whether we're surrounded by people or not. Sometimes it's worse when we're with people and still feel alone. This is normal and there's nothing wrong with you if you feel this way. Take some time to be with yourself even if it means time away from everyone else. Most of all be kind to you! https://blossom.primal.net/d53d7a1ba0fac5670885059ed8cfaafefc95da9717106fd68a9b5a68f9e16fdd.mp4

All I want for Christmas is all of the toxic and narcissistic people to be removed from our lives. For them to no longer affect our lives mentally, emotionally, physically or financially. The freedom for us to be ourselves and to be loved for it too! I wish this for every single one of you!

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Toxic people try to ruin every single special occasion and Christmas is no exception. Everything must be about them and they'll throw a fit and cause drama and chaos if it's not. Try not to react to their childish fits if you can. Be kind to yourself either way. Allow yourself kindness and compassion. Their BS is only about them! https://blossom.primal.net/ff76cd32c68ed50cd151f2ec719f69d897955d626b7de0c414985ff662221147.mp4