Aren't longer addresses consuming more space as well? Or do you mean that sends are significantly larger?

Higher transactions fees I assume as well?

Can a multisig wallet receive Bitcoin as normal? Or are there extra steps to receive Bitcoin with this set up?

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That is awesome that you took that initiative. Your wife is very lucky woman if you can apply teaching methods to build a stronger foundation with her. Love it.

I was watching a tarot reading yesterday, and let me sum up the lesson of the reading as best I can...

If you meet someone that is elevated spiritually and you haven't done the work to elevate yourself, the relationship will not be successful. You need to meet the person on their level. A spiritually evolved person will not tolerate your bullshit. Do the work on yourself.

How did you get into these books? Was it your wife who iniated these deep dives into relationship building?

What are some topics where we are all a little, or a lot brainwashed?

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Yeah, these are all on my list:

"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman and Nan Silver - This book offers insights into what makes relationships successful and emphasizes the importance of communication and emotional connection.

"Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller - This book discusses attachment styles and how they affect relationships, highlighting the importance of understanding each partner's emotional needs.

"The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" by Gary Chapman - Chapman explores the different ways people express and receive love, emphasizing the need for partners to understand each other's love languages for a healthy relationship.

"Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson - This book focuses on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and provides strategies for couples to strengthen their emotional bond and improve communication.

"Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" by Esther Perel - Perel examines the complexities of desire and intimacy in long-term relationships, discussing how to maintain passion while fostering a secure emotional connection.

"The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships" by John Gottman - This book provides practical advice on improving emotional connections and communication in various types of relationships.

"The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship" by Don Miguel Ruiz - Ruiz explores the concept of love and relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-love and understanding in creating healthy connections with others.

"You Are Here: Discovering the Magic of the Present Moment" by Thich Nhat Hanh - While not solely focused on relationships, this book emphasizes mindfulness and being present, which can enhance emotional connections and understanding in relationships.

The Gottman Theory, developed by Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues, is a framework for understanding relationships, particularly romantic partnerships. Dr. Gottman, a psychologist and researcher, has spent decades studying the dynamics of relationships and has identified key factors that contribute to relationship success and failure.

Here are the main components of the Gottman Theory:

1. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Dr. Gottman identified four negative communication patterns that can predict relationship breakdowns, which he refers to as the "Four Horsemen":

* Criticism: Attacking a partner's character or personality rather than addressing specific behaviors. This can lead to defensiveness and resentment.

* Contempt: Expressing disdain or disrespect towards a partner, often through sarcasm, mocking, or eye-rolling. Contempt is considered the most damaging of the four horsemen and can erode the foundation of a relationship.

* Defensiveness: Responding to criticism or perceived attacks with counter-complaints or excuses, which prevents constructive dialogue and resolution.

* Stonewalling: Withdrawing from the conversation or shutting down emotionally, which can leave issues unresolved and create distance between partners.

2. The Sound Relationship House Theory

Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory outlines the components that contribute to a healthy and lasting relationship. Key elements include:

* Building Love Maps: Partners should know each other’s inner worlds, including their dreams, fears, and values. This deep understanding fosters intimacy and connection.

* Sharing Fondness and Admiration: Expressing appreciation and respect for one another strengthens the emotional bond and creates a positive atmosphere in the relationship.

* Turning Toward Instead of Away: Partners should respond positively to each other’s bids for attention, affection, and support. This builds trust and emotional connection.

* The Positive Perspective: Maintaining a positive outlook on the relationship helps partners navigate conflicts more effectively and fosters resilience.

* Managing Conflict: Recognizing that conflict is a natural part of relationships, partners should learn to manage disagreements constructively rather than allowing them to escalate.

* Making Life Dreams Come True: Supporting each other’s goals and aspirations is essential for a fulfilling partnership.

* Creating Shared Meaning: Developing a shared sense of purpose and values strengthens the relationship and fosters a deeper connection.

3. The Importance of Emotional Intelligence

Gottman emphasizes the role of emotional intelligence in relationships. Partners should be able to recognize, understand, and manage their own emotions as well as empathize with their partner’s feelings. This emotional awareness helps in navigating conflicts and enhancing intimacy.

4. The Magic Ratio

Gottman’s research suggests that successful relationships have a positive-to-negative interaction ratio of approximately 5:1. This means that for every negative interaction (such as criticism or conflict), there should be at least five positive interactions (such as compliments, affection, or shared laughter) to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic.

5. The Role of Friendship

A strong friendship is the foundation of a successful romantic relationship. Partners who prioritize friendship, mutual respect, and emotional support are more likely to navigate challenges effectively and maintain a lasting bond.

Conclusion

The Gottman Theory provides valuable insights into the dynamics of relationships and offers practical tools for couples to enhance their connection and navigate challenges. By understanding the patterns of communication, fostering emotional intelligence, and prioritizing friendship, partners can build a strong, resilient relationship that stands the test of time.

What I’m working on is psychoeducation for high school/aged girls, so I don’t think the term anti-fragile would translate well in this context.

I haven’t heard of the term eustress. This is a super interesting concept, I’m excited to do some research. I can definitely relate to experiencing post traumatic growth, but we never hear it spoken about in therapeutic contexts. Thanks for offering this perspective

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GOOD MORNING NOSTR.

LIVE FREE. 🫡

I'm angry. I'm angry at you.

(No, I will not explain, but I know YOU will see this)

Grrrrrr

Would you rather hear the truth or being lied to by people who think they do it out of love?

I’d pick the truth any day.

Radical honesty is the way, then people start to select themselves.

Surround yourself with an inner circle that you can be natural and honest with, vice versa. Rest is noise.

Love this perspective. Consider my mind expanded this Monday evening.

I’ve been working on a project where I refer to “mental-emotional resilience” as a key indicator of mental health. It didn’t feel right, so today I changed it to endurance. Not sure about that either.

I love the idea of striving for something greater than merely “getting through” hard shit, I.e. displaying resilience, and instead repurposing the experience to create something productive/sustainable, I.e. anti-fragile (whatever that means in context of said “hard shit”)

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