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Masculinity is under attack lately. But I like masculinity actually.

I know, shocker.

The fact that so few U.S. presidential or vice presidential candidates have had beards in modern history is funny to me. I think men usually look better with facial hair, and the older they get the more likely that is. 20-somthing or 30-something strong jaw dudes often look great without facial hair. But when men are 50 or 60 or whatever, that salt-and-pepper beard is so rad and almost always beats the no-beard weak-chin look. I actually think it's weird that neither Biden nor Trump have a beard. JD Vance looks like shit without a beard. Growing a beard is the best move he ever made, imo. And yet the media is like, "A vice president candidate with a beard?"

Masculinity can be rough around the edges, but that's what we need sometimes. It's usually balanced by other societal aspects. In some societies it gets extreme and needs to be pushed back on. My husband has a temper, but his temper is part of his power and why he impacts the world to the extent that he does. So when I interact with his temper, it's not about eliminating it, but rather it's about appreciating it but making sure it's directed in the right direction.

Masculinity and femininity are good. They don't need to be forced. Nature is diverse but society tries to categorize nature into narrower categories. Feminine men and masculine women are cool too. But that doesn't change the fact that masculine men and feminine women are also cool.

I grew up kickboxing and submission grappling. I'm a tomboy. I'm a feminist in terms of promoting equal gender rights. But at the end of the day, I appreciate masculine men. I was never attracted to men who were weaker than me in any capacity, but rather was always attracted to men with gravitas.

The easiest approach to life is to 1) respect biology as it is but then 2) also appreciate the divergences that inherently exist within it.

Trying to equalize nature is to fight against it. And yet trying to eliminate the diversify of nature is also to fight against it.

Nature is fascinating, and I do my best to appreciate it.

Lukas 1y ago

I really like what you are saying and.. I have a beard 😜

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Lyn Alden

Anytime you find yourself arguing about something gender-related, for or against, stop and think about how few times this has actually happened in real life. This has become a big national political issue, but what percentage of your monthly interactions in the past year have included pronoun or similar disagreements between yourself and someone else *in person*?

Somehow, I have reached age 36 and this has not once been an issue in real life. Has it ever been an issue in your life? Unless you live in like one of four cities in the world or have the unfortunate role of being a liberal arts college professor, probably not. Let them deal with it.

Social polarization is a method of control by those with the money, so that you focus on something other than the money. They create theoretical problems to distract you from something more important.

For this decade in particular, it is important to focus on the money. Show empathy and tolerance and love and acceptance toward all, and really just be based, but focus on the money. Because that is what they are trying to distract you from, like a magician.

Anyway, good night.