I'm truly sorry for your loss, it's heartbreaking
I'm not an addict but like you the issue is close to my heart
Not being an addict, to understand as best I can what it means to be an addict and how to become sober I listen to addicts who are sober
That's where my perspective comes from
On that we'll have to agree to disagree
I've seen a miracle happen in this context
At odds far longer than any lottery
People's miracles are their own experience
Their own thing
As is being an addict
Respectfully
"don't judge until you've walked in their shoes"
Iconic talk by Jaron Lanier
Given in 2018, but you watch it and you realize he could be talking about the current moment and opportunity with nostr
“We cannot have a society in which if two people wish to communicate the only way that can happen is if it’s financed by a third person who wishes to manipulate them”
Amen
“The alternative is to turn back the clock with great difficulty and remake that decision. Remaking it would mean two things. It would mean many people would actually pay for these things. You’d pay for search. You’d pay for social networking. How would you pay? Maybe with a subscription fee. Maybe with micropayments... If some of you are recoiling and saying: oh my god I would never pay for these things, how could you ever get anyone to pay? Well, companies like Netflix, Amazon, and HBO, said subscribe, and we’ll give you great TV. And it worked! Now we’re in peak TV. Sometimes when you pay for stuff things get better. We can imagine a hypothetical world of peak social media"
Amen
And, most powerfully:
“We have to create a culture around technology that is so beautiful, so meaningful, so deep, so endlessly creative, so filled with infinite potential that it draws us away from committing mass suicide”
Amen
https://www.ted.com/talks/jaron_lanier_how_we_need_to_remake_the_internet
“We cannot have a society in which if two people wish to communicate the only way that can happen is if it’s financed by a third person who wishes to manipulate them”
That quote goes hard
It's very hard to collaborate over a Twitter
Free collaboration is not much liked by governments or corporations
Been looking at nostr relay implementations to use as a personal relay and installed two, chorus and nostr-rs-relay
Gotta say there was no cussing, which for setting up servers is unusual
For a personal inbox/outbox relay under active development I reckon chorus is a good option
* it's configured out of the box to only accept events authored by you or which you're tagged in
* anyone can download events from the relay but only you can download dm's
Other relay implementations don't have much flexible configuration, or they do but it's complex
And nostr:nprofile1qqswuyd9ml6qcxd92h6pleptfrcqucvvjy39vg4wx7mv9wm8kakyujgpypmhxue69uhkx6r0wf6hxtndd94k2erfd3nk2u3wvdhk6w35xs6z7qgwwaehxw309ahx7uewd3hkctcpypmhxue69uhkummnw3ezuetfde6kuer6wasku7nfvuh8xurpvdjj7a0nq40 has written pretty much the gold standard in documentation https://github.com/mikedilger/chorus
So I'm using chorus as my inbox relay and nostr-rs-relay as my outbox relay (because I like to tinker)
Open offer to nostr frens, if you need (free) help setting up a personal relay... domains, DNS, server setup, relay installation, whatever... give a shout
Been looking at nostr relay implementations to use as a personal relay and installed two, chorus and nostr-rs-relay
Gotta say there was no cussing, which for setting up servers is unusual
For a personal inbox/outbox relay under active development I reckon chorus is a good option
* it's configured out of the box to only accept events authored by you or which you're tagged in
* anyone can download events from the relay but only you can download dm's
Other relay implementations don't have much flexible configuration, or they do but it's complex
And nostr:nprofile1qqswuyd9ml6qcxd92h6pleptfrcqucvvjy39vg4wx7mv9wm8kakyujgpypmhxue69uhkx6r0wf6hxtndd94k2erfd3nk2u3wvdhk6w35xs6z7qgwwaehxw309ahx7uewd3hkctcpypmhxue69uhkummnw3ezuetfde6kuer6wasku7nfvuh8xurpvdjj7a0nq40 has written pretty much the gold standard in documentation https://github.com/mikedilger/chorus
So I'm using chorus as my inbox relay and nostr-rs-relay as my outbox relay (because I like to tinker)