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When she is complaining about an unimportant/drama problem, remember that she does not want a solution - drama is addictive and she like like it. Your solutions ruin her fun.

The formula is simple:

Listen to her

Repeat it back to her: "So your sister did ...."

Say: "That must make you feel ..."

She will think you are very insightful and connected to her.

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Things are not alwasy great. When you fail to fulfill an expectation, there can be upset. She will not be rational, but you must remain rational. Listen to her complaint and do not interrupt her. Take some time away if you need it. Rather than simply saying "I am sorry", it will go a long way if you can show her that you understand the impact of you failure.

You got home late and did not let her know? The imact is that she had to feed the kids and get them ready for soccer practice and now she is going to be late for her appointment.

When she becomes really upset about a breakdown like this, there may be other things going on under the surface - but you need to clean up the primary mess before you can move on to understanding the deeper issues.

Deeper issues may include: Her friends are really counting on her to be there on on time, her dad is always late for appointments and she hates that, etc ... or maybe YOU are always late and not communicating and this is a chronic issue.

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Missed a chance to say “… since we care about democracy and he was the winner of the primary …”

The more dependable and consistent you become, the less she will share her opinions about useless things.

When you act like a child, she has space to question every actions, to be worried about your forethought and process.

When you consistently exhibit leadership and responsibility, the more at ease she will be. When she is at ease, she can rest her mind and free herself to be with you.

#leadership #responsibility

Marriage does not mean an end to sexual adventure.

Her needs change as she matures but backseat blowjobs do not need to be a thing of the past.

Provide leadership and take responsibility for all things. Free her of burden and she will happily be your sexual plaything.

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She can’t be your sexy plaything if you don’t treat her like your sexy plaything.

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If you are compelled to text her about your bad day or about a current bullshit “crisis” you are having, so not push SEND. Will telling her accomplish anything more than putting your problems into her world?

Your goal is to keep her free of burden, not to give her undo stress over your passing problems.

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