Then maybe she wants you to go to her and make it all better

Try and talk <3 it will always help

Glad you’ve worked it out! Love trumps all, and every fight you work through only makes your love stronger and communication better. 💜

Love is hard work. Being dedicated to hard work in this regard is of critical importance. No shortcuts. No alternatives. Proof of work takes time.

I asked a man in his 90’s who had been married for 70 years for advice when my wife and I were first married. He got very serious and told me he would think about it and get back to me.

A few days later he said, I’ve given it a lot of thought and the secret is to never go to bed angry. Always keep talking and working through it. It doesn’t have to get resolved completely, just to a place of peace.

My wife and I have followed this advice for a long time and it really is helpful. Thanks Paul for the great advice.

Glad everything worked out 💜 marriage is hard work, but everything worth having requires work

Fights are normal and healthy, IMO. Never having a disagreement or argument would be very odd. It's what happens next after the fight is what showcases strong and loving relationships. You can talk and discuss the issue and work it out. Or in my case, I say something dumb, my wife laughs, tells me she can't stay mad at me, and we both giggle and forget what the fight was even about. Sometimes I fuck up. Sometimes she does. Admitting you were wrong and that you want to move past it means that you care about the relationship, and realize that in the grand scheme of things, this is just a tiny blip in what's otherwise been many, many years of sheer bliss together. 💜

Also, a game changer for my wife and I was to see our differences as a strength instead of weakness or incompatibility. I’m sure you’ve heard that though.

Damn ): my advice would be horrible here.. bc I’d just make memes about the situation n send em in hopes laughter fixes it so then the convo can be eased into

Married for 19 years.

Lose your ego. It is the root cause of most problems.

Sometimes it’s more important to give them the win even if you are certain they are wrong.

It’s complicated 😂.

Sorry don’t have any great general advice. Maybe just keep looking at yourself 10x as hard as you do with your wife? 🤷

🫂💜🤙

Try farting. 50-50 shot she either laughs or gets even more angry.

We both work to make sure we’re in ‘wise mind’ before we work on resolving things. It’s helped us tons. Allowing to ‘start over’ when things have gotten hot. Using space and texting each other because tone is easier to control via text when you’re pissed. Three deep breaths (‘4-7-8 breathing’) is physiologically enough to lower anyone’s heart rate to calm down.

🫂 it’s gonna be ok. 🫂

Been there man, many times. I don’t know your situation, but generally if someone is mad and wants to talk about it then ask, listen, think, then talk.

If they are mad and don’t want to talk, don’t push, but be available.

And don’t be defensive (can be a challenge!), it’s your wife, you’re ultimately in it together.

Ask her to take a 5-10 minute break. Come back and hug her, remind her why you both fell in love. Never go to bed mad.