If they're remote, why not do both? That's what I do 😁

2. Public school with an ethical career

You'll sleep better at night, and the fact you're even asking this puts you and your children far ahead of others in remaining skeptical throughout public school.

Just don't ever delegate PS teachers to teach critical thinking... That's 100% on you all the time

Montessori isn’t necessarily a get-out-of-indoctrination-free card. Whatever you do - you and your wife have to be engaged with your children so that no matter what “teacher” says their respect and trust in you is greater.

Also, regardless of job choice consider moving to a state where charter schools or school choice credits are an option.

Honestly, I’d also explore what the issues with homeschool are. It can be scary and understandable that she’s reluctant to take it on. May be she loves her children and is more fearful of messing up than of the Professionals being successful. My wife and I took a course and have learned a lot from https://circeinstitute.org and largely she uses https://www.amblesideonline.org/ for a curriculum. I told my wife I trusted her more than any “professional” and I invested a lot learning about it all with her. I assured her she’d have my support and that deciding to “try homeschooling” didn’t mean we had to do it for every child forever.

I was in similar position. tough choices.

Better to send to Montesorri and stack sats heavily / focus on side gig IMO/ plan on escaping to Citadel in next 2025. Citadel needs to be thought out more as real estate development project for community and normie wife friendliness