What makes a friend? #nostr
Discussion
when one man says to another: "What! You too?
CS Lewis
I naively hang my hat on his statement that: "We meet no ordinary people in our lives.”
I'm not gonna pretend I had this quote in mind, but yes.
What! You too? 🫂
If my life meant anything, it was to bring you two together.
a cuban and a bat do make a great pairing, just ask anyone that plays baseball
I am trained to hit balls 👀
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There are three pillars to a person's strength in a fight: sight, breath, and height.
Getting hit in the balls is a good way to neutralize the breath component, so it's done whenever possible in self defense situations.
So wear a cup before you start a fight, is all I'm saying.
As a short person I've always found my low center of gravity to be a benefit. Maybe it was just my immaculate site and profound breath?
Perhaps 🤔
Short people are by no means weak.
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Yes, me too! 🫂
IDK 🤷🏻♀️ Some people you connect with immediately & you get along with. Some you don’t. Guess it’s situational in how each responds at various times in their lives when communicating.
A good laugh, a little bit of banter, a circle, maybe a cloaca.
maybe someone with whom you can be radically yourself.
But so dangerous to be yourself?
I honestly do not know anymore if I have ever had a true friend in my life. There have been hundreds of people who would say they had the title, but they have all gone now in my older years. As I am friendless now.
I have the idea of what friendship is in my heart, but no one has been able to live up to those high standards. The ulterior motives, backstabbing, and secrecy have left me friendless by self-preservation.
If I had to describe what a true friend is it would be someone who shares your passionate common interests. A person who is both there for you and you for them. Someone who you enjoy spending your time with by doing activities you both love. A person who would have your back in a fight with fists, bullets, or words. One who will defend your honor when you aren't there to defend it yourself. An individual who knows the true value of loyalty, because they have spent time earning your trust simply by always being a good virtuous person.
A true friend will help you grow and better yourself by calling you out on your shit with pure unrelenting honesty. One who you can joke around with and not get easily offended, because they know you genuinely care about their well being and they for yours. Someone who will never try to use and manipulate you for their own person gain, because all they wish to gain from your friendship is simply platonic companionship. An individual who does not hide who they are and what groups they are associated with. For they are the rare type of person who is always open and honest with you while never hiding their true intentions.
These are my basic standards for what a friend is. Maybe one day I will discover a true friend, but I am not getting my hopes up any time soon. I have made my peace with this. For in this modern day and age finding a person like this (at least for me) seems about just as likely as winning the lottery. There is hope in my heart, but not the expectation of it ever coming to fruition. Maybe things will change and I can discover a true friend one day.
