my toxic trait is that, i don't give up on people easily. you have to make me hate you to the point where i never wanna see you again in order for me to give up on you.
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Brilliant and very commendable.
May Jesus/God bless you for your consistent, passionate patience with people.🙏🏻😃💜💖😆👍
Hate is a strong feeling
it is but they drive you to hate them with lies & manipulative techniques
They - I think that if you hate, you haven't overcome anything. Only when you feel indifference are you over it. But whether that's a good thing, I don’t know. In any case, love and hate are such strong emotions and speak to the fact that you haven't let go yet. I try not to hate. But there are people who no longer touch me. Finally.
i said ‘you have to make me hate you’ to let go finally and most of the cases people do it either they keep lying, cheating, dishonesty.
i don’t have hatred towards anybody, i follow a simple path in life .. for example i can’t take lying never comfort me with a lie, i have enough bearing capacity in life to take the truth. once you lie you’re done, feelings which i have dies naturally.
Yes, a very emotional topic. And I absolutely agree with you. However, I had to learn that it's not always that easy. I'm divorced and have three kids. There were times that weren't nice. And I hated my ex-husband too. Of course, there were also lies, manipulation and everything. But what was I supposed to do? I can't turn around and say I don't want to have anything more to do with you. There are things to discuss and things to decide together. Birthdays and other celebrations. I hated him for a while. Then I learned to like him. He's the father of my kids. Sure, there's no love anymore, but we get along. No hard feelings. We are friends now. I've learned to forgive him. And he forgave me. That has set us free. Forgiving him was especially important for me. But I understand you. Lies let die the love and trust. 🫂🥺
yes… i know how difficult it can be, it takes time to forgive someone that close & i believe the same
on a lighter note: i’ve forgiven all my ex’s they don’t matter to me anymore but yes what they did it’s stuck but with time i don’t let it define me.. i still try to find love & totally believe in it.
i only just fully acquired this one recently... froze out a guy who turned toxic on me after i'd done plenty to help him out and more than what he paid for on my sponsorship but then he lets me run off to an atlantic island to find him a place and then he says "no, you don't get any money for getting this place organised" and i had to sell everything and i froze that fucker out so bad i've never been so hostile to another human being i couldn't get away from
and the last thing he sends me in a message after i finally vanish the moment i have the money to is, is about how "we'll look back and laugh" ... lol, no fuckin way. i don't leave my friends stuck on a fucking island with no money to survive for a month while they have to hunt a job, not my friend, end of
there is a lot of people in the world like this, they are good up until something trips them into psycho mode and they become unreasonable and you have to isolate yourself from them
i am so sorry, you had to go through something like that can’t even imagine what you must’ve gone through & how. when the only hope for you was that guy you betted your life on it & it turned out something this ugly… 🫂🫂🫂
yesss so true….but i know this, we do isolate ourselves from such people but we can’t be bitter like them ever! we forgive but never forget
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haha not bitter at all, it was just sad, reality was very clear to me, he'd blown his budget saving all his possessions from being lost through import taxes back to his home country and didn't want to wear just one month of my costs so i wasn't literally on the border of homeless
and i got a job before a month passed, and it wouldn't have been much different the other way around except he might have got some thanks by way of giving him the money back, and not have lost my trust
meh, stupids gonna stupid, i'm not bitter, it was his loss to throw away my trust like that after i'd been as good as i could be
people do this, they get distracted by other things that aren't as important as the world around them these days, eyes glued to the doom scroll of X and their bank account balance or crypto balances
i'd talk to him again no problem if he actually demonstrated that he understood his actions were cruel and unjustified, but he was clearly so wrapped up in himself he couldn't see straight - and i'm teh one fighting vision loss because of type 2 diabetes, and trying to code at the same time to save my ass
yes … his loss… they lose us by acting in such a manner, they don’t even apologise on top the reasoning they give pfft!
also i feel sometimes in life those lessons are needed they teach us a lot on how not to be dependent on anyone, be selfish for ourselves.
I think you’re doing great on your own & soon will reach your goal, counting on you & proud of you.
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