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Would you smoke weed in front of your kids?

I was confronted by my kids mother and she asked me if I smoked weed in front of our son. The truth is I have. He is 15 years old. I am of the opinion that being honest with our children helps us to be a better guide than gaslighting and hiding the truth. I have had many conversations with both of my teen kids about cannabis. We have talked about how it can be a great alternative to western medicine at times. We have talked about the power of intention when working with substances like cannabis. We have talked about the stigma that exists with something like cannabis even though it is legal. Is alcohol better? I really don't think so but I am sure that is up for debate. We have also talked at length about the traps that come with abuse of it. I have been vulnerable with them about my own addiction issues at times and where it has been a crutch for me. I believe our children learn more when we are vulnerable and seek to guide as opposed to attempting to control them. We were all 15 at one time and most of us have considered smoking pot and had it around us somewhere. At the end of the day, a young adult will make their own decisions anyways. I believe it is better to be an ally over an adversary. I would love to hear from others on here on how they would approach this.

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MAKE SONGS LONGER 8mo ago

Hmmmmmmm we could talk about this on the podcast

n0>1 8mo ago

We could. Many things to talk about always.

MAKE SONGS LONGER 8mo ago

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Michael S Wildcard ✨ 😶‍🌫️🗽⚡ 8mo ago

Used to smoke with my step dad in the 80's. So yes I wouldn't have a problem.

Sovereign Being 8mo ago

I would. What's the difference between having a drink in front of them?

Alcohol is far worse than weed, it's not even close, it's just more socially acceptable. There was a guy, David Nutt, who conducted a study on drug safety for the UK gov, alcohol was the worst and weed was the least harmful. They fired him, of course. He wrote a book about it.

Weed continues to be subject to bullshit lies, and now being roped in with hemp cannabinoids while being blamed for their effects. Same reason why frequency modulating psychedelics are class A in this shit hole.

n0>1 8mo ago

I completely agree. I remember in highschool I wrote a paper about this. Weed was completely illegal back then and I never understood why alcohol, which seems more dangerous was socially acceptable. It's interesting now they are both legal and there is still additional stigma around weed. Makes no sense.

Sovereign Being 8mo ago

Unfortunately it does make sense when most form their opinions based on what TV experts tell them.

It's typically the older generations who still cling to this idea too. It's harder to profit off something that anyone can grow...

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

Many people don't care for weed or drug culture.

Alcohol occupies a unique place at it's both an intoxicated and a fermented beverage.

I once heard a phrase that "You don't have a culture if you don't have cultured foods."

Many people historically relied on fermented alcoholic beverages like beer and hard cider as one of the few safe things to drink, since the alcohol kills pathogens and serves as a preservative.

Alcohol consumption also lends itself to more of a social lubricant than cannabis.

n0>1 8mo ago

So how do we define a drug?

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

In this case a substance that alters a persons state of consciousness.

n0>1 8mo ago

Does alcohol count as a drug? How about coffee?

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

I would include both of those, yes, assuming caffienated coffee.

MAHDOOD 8mo ago

I don’t think I would smoke it in front of my kids just like I wouldn’t be drunk in front of them.

n0>1 8mo ago

Would you have a drink with dinner in front of them?

MAHDOOD 8mo ago

I don’t think so. There is a lot of risk to become addicted so I try to only use that stuff like once a week or on special occasions. But I think once you become a father, you shouldn’t ever really get hammered. I think that’s a healthy boundary to have which kids can imitate.

n0>1 8mo ago

Ideally yes. But I will say I was quite the stoner for many years while my kids were young. Ideally I wouldn't have been. To me it made more sense to Be honest than to hide it. I think I managed to still be a good father even though I wasn't my best self. I have since let go completely finally. Just reflecting now.

MAHDOOD 8mo ago

I think being honest is important but what is best for your kids is to just do better. They look up to you and follow your example.

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

Same. I stopped my infrequent cannabis use once I became a father.

Would never smoke it front of children, but once they became adults, it might be a different story.

n0>1 8mo ago

When are they adults? Do we base that on an age?

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

That's going to vary depending on the culture and locality.

For me it's the age if majority, 18 in my location.

n0>1 8mo ago

I don't see how a number is relevant to how I decide it is appropriate to share something with my son. That should be up to a parent to feel into for themselves I believe.

Crazy Horse Malt Beverage 8mo ago

It's relevant because the legal system uses that number.

In general I defer to parents to make the best decisions for their children.

Obviously at age 18 in the United States they legally are recognized as an adult who now can make their own decisions, with exceptions made for the drinking age which the states were strong armed into by withholding federal highway funds.

n0>1 8mo ago

I hear you. Its not relevant to me is all I am saying.

sati 8mo ago

Lead by exemple, if you think it benefited you and it will benefit them….. I would prefer they fear it a bit, after smoking and justifying it many years I only see downsides now

n0>1 8mo ago

There is a time and a place for everything. I think I see there being a lot note nuance to something like this over just being good or bad. Leading by example could also be about being honest as well I think.

sati 8mo ago

Defenetly, it could be a good approach in your case and they can learn from it. I don’t see much benefit in been intoxicated often, as a experience 💯. Lsd or shrooms are much better though.

There is much more potential in been mindfull and awake imho

n0>1 8mo ago

I have definitely learned a lot throigh ny experience with psychoactive substances. Big part of my journey to understanding myself better. Weed included. I think everyone is different. We all have different lessons to learn and we all learn differently.

db 8mo ago

I do in front of my kids, we have a very open home as far as conversations go. No topic is off limits. I think as long as you are talking/teaching/learning together it is a net positive. Half of my adult kids partake and the other half don’t. In the end, I don’t care if they smoke as long as they keep their shit together. I love that they respect my honesty growing up and extend their honesty to me now. Win/win.

Justin 8mo ago

No I would not.

I could however see myself having similar conversations but I would not want to expose them to 2nd hand smoke (or even vapor).