I think all notifications should just be off by default and users should have the ability to turn ones on as they see fit. Pretty sure that's what Primal just enabled in their recent update.
Push notifications are cool and all, but they are part of what makes social media so addicting. What if, instead of push notifications, you could get a daily or weekly email with your notifications? Might be a healthier way to interact than feeling like you always need to immediately check your phone to see what the latest alert was about.
That said, I wouldn't mind seeing this done in a more Nostr-native way.
nostr:npub1v3tgrwwsv7c6xckyhm5dmluc05jxd4yeqhpxew87chn0kua0tjzqc6yvjh would it be possible to have a few options for when Pokey sends push notifications? 1. Real-time (current practice), 2. At a specific time each day. 3. On a specific day each week.
If so, I would love to be able to subscribe to notifications for community relays' calendar, chat, and threads events in Pokey, too. Or get really crazy and allow Pokey to subscribe to a custom feed... Then users could, say, create a custom feed that was based on a kind 30000 list, but only showed long-form notes, and Pokey could alert daily if any of those npubs had written an article.
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Before this update, I don't think Primal had push notifications at all.
Other Nostr apps have followed that basic flow of having push notifications off by default.
Still others have strange behavior where push notifications only occur while you actually have the app open, which is the opposite of useful...
Either way, your current option in apps that give you one is to either have push notifications in real time, or no notifications at all. I think there could be a happy medium struck where users could opt for a daily or weekly summary/digest, either by email as with nostr:nprofile1qqsf03c2gsmx5ef4c9zmxvlew04gdh7u94afnknp33qvv3c94kvwxgspz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduhszrnhwden5te0dehhxtnvdakz7qgewaehxw309a5xyu3wvdhhyctrd3jjuum0vd5kzmp0er5gcs's tool or by push notification with Pokey.
The advantage of pokey is, it's Nostr-native and it allows you to select the Nostr app you want to open the notification with, instead of being locked into opening the notification with one particular client. If the same function was added to Amethyst, for instance, then you would be more or less locked into opening the notification with Amethyst. Yes, you could swipe the notification away and open a different client, but it's less friction to just tap the notification to open Amethyst, so that's what most will do.