Spontaneity is the way for me as my plans always go to shit. And the anxiety of planning "the" perfect thing 😖.
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lol
that happens when kids enter the scene :P
what triggers the spontaneity for you??
Yeah, planning anything with a kid around 😵💫
It can be anything... the kid is gone, we had a fun day and I'm relaxed, a smell, a look, or a touch...not being tired 😆
i think nostr:npub1r8u6lw8c2h67s66magtqu78vtpckfzcsmmdsg06gqm723njsunfs8kfjwl nailed it when she said keeping the flame simmering.
it takes a conscious effort (and a bit of planning) to create those moments of "spontaneity" when we can reunite amidst the business of everyday life. at least for me that's how it feels.
Yes, I will also add being physically and emotionally attracted to your spouse/significant other helps with the "simmer"... I see so many people who are roommates that happened to be married, absolutely no sizzle.
i wonder if it's because the "simmer" ceases to be a priority, or maybe because the effort feels less "effortless"
hmmm
I think both maybe.
In one case in particular, it was a box checking girl. Get boyfriend ✅ Get married ✅ Get house ✅ Get Babies ✅ Get divorced ✅✅
Romance and intimacy can't thrive in that kind of toxicity.