What scared you the most about getting married and having kids?
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That I would become so immersed in my various intellectual pursuits that I would forget to feed the children, as I tend to kill all of my houseplants.
My husband pointed out that children cry when they're hungry, unlike houseplants. This seemed logical to me.
Aww hahaha seems like they didn’t starve. 😁
Apparently, 😁
I think I grossly underestimated how interesting I'd find little children. They are mesmerizing.
Hyperfocused on them for about 10 years. Thought of little else.
LMAO 🤣 🤣
Literally "it's not a but, it's a feature!"😭 🥲
Well, it explains why children cry, doesn't it? Had never occurred to me, before he pointed it out.
They signal when they need something. Brilliant system.
Make sense (?
This is the norm in nature, almost everything that passed the test of time has a purpose, when we fail to understand why most of the time is us not being smart enough to get it.
Children are both easier and more difficult, than I thought.
All the basic survival stuff quickly becomes routine.
Dealing with two additional people with their own personalities and desires is difficult.
that the kids grow up faster then me.😂
I wasn’t scared enough. It just felt right. It was right. But what the heck, what a ride!
I'm not scared, it's just difficult to find like minded people with a low time preference. I took the party in your twenties route and regret it, as much fun as it was the consequences come after. When you find true meaning and a willingness to create a family and is much more difficult as you age.
True! When everything fits, it will work out 🫂
That's not really the point. For a woman i would say that it's good to have children till 32 years old. Also all women at the age of 25-26 have thoughts to become mothers. So... The conclusion is that if you are between 25-32 go for it. After that things become difficult...
32 is already 6 years into the fertility decline and you'll be chasing little kids around in your 40s.
I know women with 4+ kids, who had little ones in their 40s, but they also had teenage kids to help.
Alone, it'd be brutal. Especially if you have really bright kids.
I was 35 when we had our daughter and we want 5 kids. We think that's a reasonable goal. Bare minimum is 3.
Ultimately we'll be happy with what God gives us, but we both wanted a big family.
Yes. That's my point. I said 32 because after that in most women, hanging tits and ass are quite visible and the decline is somewhat obvious.
Of course better late than never they say.
Nothing. We were right for each other, and later it was a journey we wanted to go on together.