But yes, while wives should submit to their husbands marriage is a contract designed to honor each other and the lord. So that each is stronger together than separate. Ephesians 5:22-24: "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
Discussion
A wife is supposed to submit to a husband's leadership because a husband is expected to serve his wife, and if need be die for his wife and offspring. There's no way to manage that effort and risk without some form of situational control.
The only reason any argument about this takes place today in some successful countries is because that situational control was given, managed well through patriarchy and we enjoy the fruits of it today where things are so safe, calm and soft that people can act like this survival strategy was never necessary.
As a Christian, I agree 100%. Those verses re: female submission and male headship, risking his life for his wife, etc. prompted me to opt out of the whole marriage and family path all together. Always seemed like a raw deal for the guy. Lots of risk with not much upside. Both Jesus and Paul encouraged men to remain unmarried and I took their advice to heart. I’ve seen plenty of Christian couples make it work though.
For me the saddest part of most religions is how they teach fear and obedience. It is essentially a model of an abusive relationship.
And this is why I'm spiritual and not religious. I don't want to have an abusive relationship with god.
Honor and loyalty have been thrown out the window. Trying to find woman that hasn’t been brainwashed by the system that wants the family unit dead is not even realistic anymore. I’m not saying men aren’t at fault as well but women are naturally more agreeable to the herd. It started with the feminism movement, and the court system that swung the pendulum way too far and is now extremely abusive towards men. It is honestly really sad where we are with the men and women and what has happened to the family unit. This is not what god intended for us at all. In my humble opinion.