Speak truth kindly and at the right time and place.
Lying is not love.
Love your family.
I’m guessing you’re talking about extended family. Foregoing some happiness during family gatherings to keep peace is the prudent move imo. If you see these ppl every day then that’s different
I’m inquiring for my longtime family friend who I’m hanging out with right now to seek unbiased outside opinion. He ‘feels’ stuck. He has been married for a long time (18 years), and has known for a long time that he is unhappy in the marriage. She knows too. He has told her many times he wants a divorce. He is adamant that he is 100% not in love with her, and hasn’t been for a very long time, and there’s no way to reconcile. It’s a situation where she got pregnant when they were young and they just made it try to work over the years knowing they’re not meant to be together. He is trying to figure out a way to get out but is scared to do so bc hes worried that it will financially ruin him. Staying together for money fears seems like a terrible way to live. They sleep in different rooms, don’t talk, and haven’t had any type of “intimate” relationship in a long time. He has deep seeded money fears. And he’s afraid of it causing significant strife within the home if he hands her divorce papers. He’s trying to figure his way out of it.
I see. I obviously don’t know all the details, but as a married man myself I would try to make it work. When you make that commitment it has to mean something. Your wife, kids, extended family, and community are all affected by a divorce. Unless he is being abused, I would think long and hard before going thru with a divorce. Even if he is not religious, I would encourage him to read what the bible has to say about love and marriage. Men are supposed to protect and provide for their families. I think focusing on that and serving others will go along way to changing his outlook on life. I’ve seen men in my life sacrifice their happiness for the sake of the family and I’m thankful they did. Probably not what he wants to hear, but those are my 2 sats
