Real Question:
Would you sacrifice your happiness and your truth to keep the peace with family member(s)? 🤔
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How would that be peace?
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I try to lower my expectations with them. Helps a lot.
But what does that mean? Would you sacrifice your happiness (long term)?
(Not bitcoin related)
I accept that there’s a mismatch between what I want/need from them vs what they’re able to give (Not in a material sense).
But at the same time I set clear boundaries and I stick to them.
No sacrificing of my happiness because I accept that we don’t approach situations the same way and that’s ok.
Completely respectable. I think it’s important to communicate and set clear expectations. People like to know what to expect. When communication where you’re at, and acknowledge where they’re at so they feel heard and understood as well, we come to realize it makes walking in your truth much easier than would have been anticipated.
a coward dies a thousand times
sacrifice no, peace is inherent because need two parties to fight... no one can fight alone (be no one), recognize the parts of our dark mirror is essential especial with familiy members... BE YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY!
🤝🤌 I agree completely.
Why aren't the family members sacrificing their happiness? Their truth? .. I think there's a balance to be had .. no sacrifice, no peace ✌🏼
Thank you for sharing. I think when we take an eagle eye view and zoom out, depending on the subject matter, when everyone is able to align to their happiness and truth everyone wins. Fear leaves. they’re rejuvenated. It’s just Mhra’s sometimes.
Absolutely
Evolved life is sacrifice
It’s either service to Self
Or service to others.
What if you following your truth and happiness would also lead to THEIR personal happiness in the long term? They’re just unable to see that clearly due to a high time preference way of thinking?
Then it was always a service to others all along.
Woah!!!!!! 😳🤯🤯🤯
YES!!! 😮💨
Deep. Raw. Truth.
Guilty conscience?
If only stolen happiness would make anyone happy.
These are essential questions to the mysteries of our purpose.
Eventually… all Souls will recognize this journey. From one to the other through a vast adventure, the labyrinth of choices.
I recognize… I’m asking to help someone receive unbiased feedback from people not close to them. Sometimes it’s easier to see certain things when we hear jr from a stranger with no skin in the game, than someone that loves us. 🫶
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What are your thoughts?
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Clearly he wants his cake and to eat all of it too.
Perfect opportunity/choice to face his fears about lack/abundance and to the challenges/choices around loyalty.
Either way… the Fools Journey leads us towards Love/expansion or away from Love/separativeness.
And the karma/lessons will come either way.
The longer the delay/resistance to the necessary changes, the more suffering to mother, father and child.
My heart goes out to all…
Vodka and putin
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Any outs?
Speak truth kindly and at the right time and place.
Lying is not love.
Love your family.
I’m guessing you’re talking about extended family. Foregoing some happiness during family gatherings to keep peace is the prudent move imo. If you see these ppl every day then that’s different
I’m inquiring for my longtime family friend who I’m hanging out with right now to seek unbiased outside opinion. He ‘feels’ stuck. He has been married for a long time (18 years), and has known for a long time that he is unhappy in the marriage. She knows too. He has told her many times he wants a divorce. He is adamant that he is 100% not in love with her, and hasn’t been for a very long time, and there’s no way to reconcile. It’s a situation where she got pregnant when they were young and they just made it try to work over the years knowing they’re not meant to be together. He is trying to figure out a way to get out but is scared to do so bc hes worried that it will financially ruin him. Staying together for money fears seems like a terrible way to live. They sleep in different rooms, don’t talk, and haven’t had any type of “intimate” relationship in a long time. He has deep seeded money fears. And he’s afraid of it causing significant strife within the home if he hands her divorce papers. He’s trying to figure his way out of it.
I see. I obviously don’t know all the details, but as a married man myself I would try to make it work. When you make that commitment it has to mean something. Your wife, kids, extended family, and community are all affected by a divorce. Unless he is being abused, I would think long and hard before going thru with a divorce. Even if he is not religious, I would encourage him to read what the bible has to say about love and marriage. Men are supposed to protect and provide for their families. I think focusing on that and serving others will go along way to changing his outlook on life. I’ve seen men in my life sacrifice their happiness for the sake of the family and I’m thankful they did. Probably not what he wants to hear, but those are my 2 sats
Nope, I enjoy stirring the pot too much
You have to negotiate a mutual state of peace to have happiness. No one person can be asked to give too much of themselves. You also have to be willing to give a little.
yes. because I can control my emotions but conflict causes chaos