I've made a point to try not to talk about family here, but I need some comradere

Sister is in town and has always been against me getting into Bitcoin and all of the change in health things I've done. It was one thing after I rode the bear market down, but now? I'm sick of it.

I finally addressed it directly and left room to say that it's fine if you're not into it, but you're direct negativity towards the things in building my life around is getting to a point where it feels like you're rooting against me. I'm just asking for some support.

All I got was an "I'll think about it"

I generally don't give people the time of day once I find out they aren't rooting for me to succeed (we all can win), but family? That's tough and we generally have a solid relationship otherwise.

I'm sure some of you guys have dealt with something similar. How did you handle it? How did you get it to a positive place?

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I haven’t talk with my sisters in years now for going against what I have a passion about āœŒšŸ½ I can’t wait to just get away me and my dog and Bitcoin is All I need family is not family anymore it’s all fake love and we wasn’t raised like that it’s really sad

Read Marcus Aurelius

You don't need her approval nor permission. Some people just don't understand, and thats ok. Let your succes prove her wrong

Hold your ground. Don’t cut ties. Argue only if necessary. Keep a sense of humor. Don’t expect support if it ain’t spontaneous. Don’t ruin the family relationship for the orange pill. Let the numbers talk.

I have a brother who’s been against Bitcoin the whole time. My success speaks so loud I can’t hear the negativity anymore. Bitcoin has made me a winner and he’s left in the dust. I wish I could take everyone with me, but they don’t want to do what’s necessary.

Many choose not to put in the effort but I can’t be secure if my immediate family is not. They’re all good to me, especially when I was younger, so now I just see it as it’s my turn.

My sister is a full blown communist who takes my nephews to pride parades. I've had candid conversations with her but know we disagree on some pretty important shit. So I continue to pray that she can find a way out of her shitty algorithm and get back to the based person she shows herself to be on certain things. Hard part is she lives in New England and is a teacher. So her algo is completely fucked and it's hard for her to turn the ship around. That being said I love her anyway and pray she doesn't harm my nephews with her ideology.

You must go even fuller retard. Admitting you are right about these fundamentals is very hard for some to take.

Are you able to have ratiomal conversations with her about ideas and concepts? If so she is very rare among women - and I would keep working on her. If the conversation isnt enjoyable though, dont do it. Her opinion about you should not even register

Tad Smith made a great point on a podcast and one that I personally have yet to apply successfully.

We should wait to be invited by others to discuss Bitcoin. Essentially, he is right. We often make it about us.

ā€œI’ll always be here for you sis. I love you and would go through hell to protect you. Somehow you’ve interpreted my brotherly love as an indication that I’m interested in your negative opinions of the things I’m excited about and that’s just not the case. I know I’ve changed and have different interest than back when we were younger. Back then I did lots of silly stuff like vote for senator warren but Ive grown up. We still have much in common so let’s focus on the things we enjoy doing together and just cheer on each other’s happiness. If that’s not something you can do then HFSPā€. Or something like that😁. It’s no fun when there is conflict in the family, I’ll pray you two find a way forward.

Damn man. You sound like you are describing my relationship with my sister. I'd love to talk about this further. Mostly because my lack of advice reminds me of your loss for words. I either have to bite my tongue or decide to be the "asshole." Nothing she ever says is wrong..............

We’re all in this cult, apparently. 🫤

Many of us were once in their position so I think we should be gracious.

Bitcoin is hope not conflict.

I have a few thoughts. What do you believe about yourself to think you need this persons acceptance or support? Figure out what that belief is and challenge/deconstruct. It may be self worth. I also did an exercise in an abundance class where we imagined that we had failed and we were squirming on the floor with all the people who didn’t believe in us pointing and laughing, saying see! You failed. In that course the lady recommended then letting those feelings that came up really get felt and letting it go.

Send her this post with the comments and an I love you sis attached.

Setting a healthy boundary does not mean you don’t also love them.

I left home at 18 and haven’t lived within 800 miles of my parents since. I call them every week and spend time talking about things that don’t upset either of us. We have plenty in common. I visit several times a year. We tell each other that we love each other all the time and when emergencies happened over the years I showed up and handed things. But when my parents and siblings tell me that I should consider going back to college ā€œjust in caseā€ so I ā€œhave something to fall back onā€ I gently remind them that I’ve been self employed for the last 25 years, most of that was semi retirement and at 51 I’m financially independent and will never have to rely on anyone for my paycheck. They simply can’t grasp the concept. ā€œHow can you own a business in another state, never go there and still get a paycheck?ā€ ā€œYou’re not working, how are you getting paid?ā€

I don’t call them ā€œwage slavesā€ or ā€œtax cattleā€ I don’t try to wake them up to the fact that they are pawns in a 150 year old government psyop. Living outside the system would be too much of a shock for them. I simply offer to teach them if they want to learn. When they say yes, I don’t try to explain anything. I tell them to get a hard copy of Thomas Sowell’s ā€œBasic Economicsā€ and read ten pages at sunrise every morning with their bare feet on the grass before looking at any screens.

ā€œCan’t you just tell me?ā€ No, putting in the work and going through the process is what gets you there. We can talk about it more once you’ve completed the first steps.

No one has ever bought the book and you can’t make them. Giving them an assignment ends the conversation peacefully and opens the door for other topics.

They will wake up when they are ready and there is nothing you can do to change that except share love and be successful on your own path. Family is the core of one’s community and it sounds like you and your sister would be there for each other in an emergency, don’t ruin that, you don’t have the resources to overcome all the brainwashing that’s out there. Nurture what you have and let the rest go.

My family, mostly, are disinterested and some make snarky comments etc. I would not lose a sibling over bitcoin. Period.

Unpopular opinion :

I think you should think about yourself first.

Would you tolerate someone else acting like that if it was not for a close family member. The answer is no.

You don't owe anything to your sister, and you don't owe her unwavering loyalty... Because she is not loyal to you herself. She would not root against you if she was loyal.

In the end, it's about you. IF she brings something positive to you in other ways and it compensates what you just described well then you have an incentive to keep on spending time with her. If not, it's ok to reduce the time you allocate to her.

You should check out Doctor Ramani's youtube channel on narcissism. There is a subtype narcissist called vulnerable/covert narcissist. I just went through this rabbit hole because a very close one is actually a covert narcissist.

I made insane realisations

1. You are allowing her to define you.

2. Just be you.

3. Kick her out of your headspace. She's living there rent free.

4. She loves you. Love her back. Warts and all.

5. You don't need her permission, approval or consent.

6. She is aware that she has this hold over you. Stop it. Let it go.

7. Now, go put your big boy pants on and make sure they don't drop to your ankles.

8. And smile, because you know full well you've done some awesome stuff on Nostr. And will continue to do so in the future .

9. I bet she is a big sister. I'm one of those. I bet she also feels threatened by your success. Embrace her. And I bet you anything - she wants a deep conversation, where she can share her vulnerabilities. She doesn't know how.

10. Then again I could be all plaque.