Setting a healthy boundary does not mean you donāt also love them.
I left home at 18 and havenāt lived within 800 miles of my parents since. I call them every week and spend time talking about things that donāt upset either of us. We have plenty in common. I visit several times a year. We tell each other that we love each other all the time and when emergencies happened over the years I showed up and handed things. But when my parents and siblings tell me that I should consider going back to college ājust in caseā so I āhave something to fall back onā I gently remind them that Iāve been self employed for the last 25 years, most of that was semi retirement and at 51 Iām financially independent and will never have to rely on anyone for my paycheck. They simply canāt grasp the concept. āHow can you own a business in another state, never go there and still get a paycheck?ā āYouāre not working, how are you getting paid?ā
I donāt call them āwage slavesā or ātax cattleā I donāt try to wake them up to the fact that they are pawns in a 150 year old government psyop. Living outside the system would be too much of a shock for them. I simply offer to teach them if they want to learn. When they say yes, I donāt try to explain anything. I tell them to get a hard copy of Thomas Sowellās āBasic Economicsā and read ten pages at sunrise every morning with their bare feet on the grass before looking at any screens.
āCanāt you just tell me?ā No, putting in the work and going through the process is what gets you there. We can talk about it more once youāve completed the first steps.
No one has ever bought the book and you canāt make them. Giving them an assignment ends the conversation peacefully and opens the door for other topics.
They will wake up when they are ready and there is nothing you can do to change that except share love and be successful on your own path. Family is the core of oneās community and it sounds like you and your sister would be there for each other in an emergency, donāt ruin that, you donāt have the resources to overcome all the brainwashing thatās out there. Nurture what you have and let the rest go.