I have to go to a bridal shower this weekend, and I'm really not looking forward to it. Does that make me a terrible person? The couple are already living together, so I dont see the point of it. What could they possibly need for their home that they dont already have? In my opinion, bridal showers are for a couple just starting out, who have nothing for their home yet. Anyway, just venting here. If I'm way off base, someone tell me. #grownostr
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Nope. I don't think so. I feel the same way.
Idk, I had a bridal lunch and we were already living together. It was more just about a pre-celebration with my female relatives. I didn't have a registry for it, and only a couple people brought gifts, which was perfectly fine. I think it matters how she frames it -- it could be very nice or it could be a gift grab. 🤷♀️
She does have a gift registry, and maybe I just dont enjoy those types of functions anymore.
In that case, if it's for someone you care about, maybe focus more on what it means to her to have you there, rather than how much you'll enjoy it yourself, to make it more bearable? Good luck!
I don’t have a strong opinion on this other than I hate going to any kind of shower, so I feel your pain. 😂 Stupid party games give me anxiety. All of it does. I didn’t used to be so anti-social. 🤷♀️
Not a terrible person at all. I had one which I only wanted for my closest friends but, it turned into SO much more than that. It was an uncomfortable situation for me. Could it be the same for this person? 🤷♀️ Regardless, not a terrible person
I dont think that's her situation, she sent out invitations and the whole bit, and we had to rsvp. And she has a gift registry set up, so the expectation is that we're supposed to buy something. Oh well.
After a certain age many of those gift parties feel excessive. Doubly so if they are already living in the same house. I guess smile, make small talk and hope the food is good.
why do you have to go?
Well its extended family, and I guess I feel obligated. I know I could decline, and I almost did.
obligated because you know it would mean something to them if you were there and they mean enough to you that you want to be there for them or obligated because you are afraid of what people might say if youre not there?
I would say its the former.