How does one get over their fear of public speaking?
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This site is great-social anxiety institute.org
By working through it by public speaking.
The best version of yourself is on the other side of your greatest fears.
Immersion therapy. Yup, just gotta go for it.
Oof , that's a hard one, it's pretty well programmed in to your DNA. I read that 50% of people perform well public speaking. And 50% of people do not do well public speaking. I'm sure there is guides to help with it. Just like guides to help with phobias of spiders etc.
Oh damn. I hope I’m on the side of those who do well but haven’t realized it yet!
I just gotta keep trying and not be a wuss I guess 😭
Sorry bad link: socialtanxietyinstitute.org
And again: https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/
Thank you! Will check it out 🙏
the only way to get over a fear is to face it! just don’t forget that even the smallest step gets you closer to your goal – and fighting the fear is a noble one 😤
Thanks girl! You’re 100% right. Every little bit counts. I’m determined to overcome that fear this year so gotta start somewhere!
i've never had a fear of public speaking. i love to talk 😆 and as long as i have a medium understanding of what i'm talking about, i can bullshit forever about anything. i'm sure you'll do fine 💜 just practice what you want to say before hand, know the content well enough that you don't need notes, but have them just in case!
Thanks Derek! 🙌 That’s great advice. I’ll keep that in mind when the time comes!
Ironically, I’m great at small talk and can have all sorts of conversations with anyone. But doing it in front of a ton of people is a whole different thing, especially if you throw in a stage and a microphone. Anxiety, here I come! lol
Just gotta practice and take it one step at a time, I guess.
Doing it more often. Knowing the subject really really well helps.
I think the issue is with the perfectionist part of my brain that tells me “if you make a tiny mistake, you’re gonna get laughed at”, so I’m always doubting whether I know something “enough” even when deep down I know I DO.
You make sure you are doing it for the right reasons
Well said, Jesus 🙏 Blessing to you and your fam this week! lol
For me I used 2 tricks when starting out
1. Look at people's foreheads when speaking. They'll think you're looking them in the eye but it's not as intimidating as eye contact.
2. Do you speech in a mirror. It feels weird which is good. It helped me get over the jitters.
After a while you won't worry about public speaking once you get the skill down don't sweat it
Those are great tips. Thanks! Will test them out!
Taking incremental steps toward that goal, starting doing the biggest thing you can manage and will do and going a little bit further every time. Practice and paitience.
Maybe the first step is talking in fron of only few friends, maybe is even smaller that that. Just start and be on the edge of what you can manage.
I my experience it allways was like this to improve on anything 🤔.
Good point. Will gather some friends and talk to all of them at the same time and see how it goes first 🤣
Practice practice practice.
Not only doing many different talks and presentations, but also for a single one: practice it alone, practice it in front of one person, practice it in front of 2 or 3 of your friends. You will improve every time and will be on autopilot for the real one.
There’s no other way 🥲
Practice makes (almost) perfect, right?
Focus on what is being said
If you keep thinking about how to behave and whether the audience will like you, it's natural to feel scared. In fact, the best way to calm down before giving a speech is to return to the content itself.
Focus on what you want to say! The most important thing is to focus on your opening statement: Although the duration of the speech may vary, your chance to attract the audience's attention and establish their trust in you is only in the first 60 seconds. If you cannot deliver the content that attracts them in the first 60 seconds of the speech, then you will no longer have this opportunity.
Believe in yourself, YES, YOU CAN!
Thank you, Elvine! That’s a good point you’re making. Focus on the content, the confidence will follow. Just gotta give it a try, I guess!
I accept and honor that rush of adrenaline because it means I care about what I'm doing and it will give me energy during the talk.
It's biologically normal to feel it (we are after all one against a crowd).
Ride the wave 🌊, don't try to push it away and have fun!
Grazie cara! 🧡 You’re absolutely right. If you’re nervous it’s because you care, and you just need to embrace the excitement that comes with it.
When the time comes, I’ll take a deep breath and give it my all!
Esattamente così! In bocca al lupo. È stato il mio lavoro per tanti anni insegnare a usare la voce su un palco e se c'è una cosa che è sempre stata vera: a chi ascolta poco importa della perfezione o di chi sta pensando a come verrà il talk ma piace imparare, connettersi e godersela assieme
Mir, is Giacomo on here too?
Remembering that most people are also fearful of it. Getting up there/the anticipation is the hardest part.
Mistakes will happen, but that’s the thrill of being LIVE.
The more you do it, the easier it gets, but I don’t think the nerves ever fully go away 😅
Thanks, name twin! 🧡 Means a lot coming from you, who always seems so smooth and comfortable up there on stage.
That’s a good reminder to have because I often assume every speaker feels very chill in front of the cameras but that’s not always the case! 😅
Almost always NOT the case. 😄 And #[2] is right, repetition is the antidote for that fear.
Start with a topic you understand really well, and a small group of well meaning and interested people.
Takes just 5-10 times until you understand they're not out to get you 😅
The routine you gain from that, helps with your posture and general confidence, which feeds back into the audience's reception. And then you've done it 😃
That’s a great plan. I really should try and do that. Gotta call some friends and force them to listen to me! Lol Thank you!
A lot of anxiety comes from fear of being called out in public and not knowing the answer. A simple, “That’s a great question, let me get back to you” or “can we take that offline” can really help in a pinch. I also like to start of by setting the intention and genuinely being grateful to the audience for showing up and being engaged. It’s disarming for them and gets your energy vibrating joy, which the audience picks up.
You’re absolutely right. That is indeed my biggest fear. But that’s great advice. I’ll keep it in mind! Thank you 🧡
Look out into the audience and realize they don’t know the difference between bitcoin and shitcoins.