My wife and I just had a long discussion about what makes some guys unattractive. Iām curious what women on nostr have to say about this topic - what makes a guy unattractive to you?
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My wife hates pussies. Lotsa nuance there, but you know 'em when you see 'em.
She's abnormal though. "That dude's definitely a soft Fuck." She will sometimes say with a look of disgust on her face, as we are out people watching.
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It starts with appearance and smell. If heās not willing to do basic grooming it doesnāt look so great. If he smells like he doesnāt brush his teeth or wear deodorant itās kind of gross. To me, those are basics. If you arenāt doing that, I can imagine other parts of you smell worse. If heās a smoker itās a no. But, a dirty shirt isnāt a deal breaker for me. Itās likely from working a job. Thatās an attractive trait for me. I love a bigger man than I am in size and one with broad shoulders. Someone capable of protecting myself and our children.
Personality-wise, if itās found he has no sense of humor; Iāll walk. If he canāt make fun of himself or see the humor in the darkest of times; unattractive. If heās not principled or hasnāt put the time in to develop principles I find that unattractive. If he isnāt consistent on his word, makes promises he canāt keep or flakes; no thank you. He must understand respect and civility towards a prospective wife/mother of his children and be willing to protect them and secure their future.
Before I dive into a rabbit hole, I know every woman has different standards when it comes to overall attractiveness. Iām attracted to very traditional traits, but Iām also more demanding in certain romantic gestures and intimacy. I do love a romantic.
The men who are unattractive to me are men who are complete opposite to my husband. Iāve been very blessed. But, the few men Iāve had the honor of knowing in my young adulthood were all nearly worthy of my gifts and fit reasonably well into my standards and I hope I did as well for them. Until I met my Jack; who was a perfect fit.
Thank you for such a thoughtful and detailed response! All seem very reasonable standards.
being close minded
Since I can't answer that, how about a different question, and probably you can have an answer to it on your end:
Dspite the various unattractive points, what was the attractive point, or points, that made a woman be in a relationship with a man?
(This can be applied to the other side as well, man to woman)
Attitude for me. There's a difference between confidence and cockiness, strutting and preening make me laugh and confidence is attractive. General healthiness is a good thing...skin, teeth, and hair are a byproduct of this. And personally I like a masculine man that isn't terrified because I'm female.
Hubs and I have been together for over 20 years and have known each other over 30, I'm spoiled and will probably never find another to compliment me so well in so many ways if I were to have to look.
Ego
This really is a pointless question. Women will lie to you and to themselves on what they find attractive. We have hard data on what women find attractive in dating apps.
90% of women go after the top 15%-20% of men. If you want to attract women then you need to get as close to the attributes of these "top" menas possible.
Lets not lie to ourselves our make it more complicated than it is.
Talking over me.