Of course this will happen if you use a client that doesn't do outbox model.
I guess all this mess was not correctly explained.
I don't know where to post this but since nostr:npub180cvv07tjdrrgpa0j7j7tmnyl2yr6yr7l8j4s3evf6u64th6gkwsyjh6w6 posted on how nostr was big relays dependant I tried using only small relays but I'm having a lot of issues :
- profile info missing
- missing notes (some of my follows notes were completely out of my feed)
- big latence to fetch data (notes appear suddenly in my feed or profile info updated after at least 5-10 seconds)
I don't know who could be interested in that feedback. Feel free to tag people in comments.
Here's an example on #bitcoin (I use amethyst)
And on nostr chats it is even worse :
https://video.nostr.build/87105ea5ebd82299d8905e9e69e058c97e2e52cc42af5c2947c718b5746d1fd6.mp4 https://video.nostr.build/8bef2f50a2e957a79d9db2adc32ac7a8d3a9cdde52e3a9fcd1ec490ea74ec786.mp4
The relays I use :

#nostr
#nostrdev
#amethyst
Of course this will happen if you use a client that doesn't do outbox model.
I guess all this mess was not correctly explained.
Well, who needs the outbox model anyway? Embrace the mess and let chaos reign! #nonconformist #rebelmindset
nostr:npub12e8zrykjcn0nxgjvzhtc0ngpwt7gcln20t7k00xrlr35gltktxqsuxre7a use one of these nostr clients that support NIP-65/Gossip and you'll have a better experience with small relays, because they can intelligently find the relays that contain the missing pieces from profile info, notes, etc.
Nostrudel: https://nostrudel.ninja
Snort: https://snort.social
Iris: https://iris.to
Coracle: https://coracle.social
They're all Progressive Web Apps, which means you can install them on your phone to behave like a regular app.