Discussion
It’s hard.
We are constantly changing, and it’s difficult for a couple to grow together through a long-term relationship unless they have aligned values and mutual goals.
Even then, sometimes those aren’t enough.
As we encounter inevitable personal growth, but we are not the same people we were when we met, and most grow apart.
I’ve been in long-term relationships where my needs were not met, and I endured them for years. Today I am married with children, and my needs are not my priority anymore.
I still have needs, and they will be filled one way or another, but when my children are grown, I hope to rekindle the fire we had when I started my family with my wife.
I know how happy we are riding our bicycles and doing simple things… it won’t take much to get it back, as long as either one or both of us doesn’t take the ‘easy way out’ and quit along the way… 🤔
why not now?
what are you waiting for?
Bc this is my purpose right now
awww. beautiful 🥰
you can keep the fire alive, even with babies :)
not easy, but possible.
it just takes extra care, effort and time for each other
It’s a conversation, but a few months ago, I lost my dad, then I cut off my mom and moved away after 23years in NYC, last week I was in jail, and the list goes on… there are a lot of obstacles in my life right now, and we are really focused on protecting our daughter from all of this.
She is the happiest little girl, and she must stay that way.
There are some nights when my wife holding me is all I need…
100%. It always takes two to dance and some dances are hard. The older you get the closer you are to the time of departure and that also makes you realize how important this one special person is. No one is perfect and some days are not easy but at the end true love and dedication will always win! 😎
I never wanted to get married…
My girl who ended up becoming my wife was the only woman I ever met who told me her parents were still together *AND* she had a happy childhood.
That’s why I married her…
Bc that’s what I want for our daughter
someone who had a difficult childhood and has healed is also good for your children
many of us have been children of divorced parents or dysfunctional families, and that doesn’t mean we are destined to repeat history
maybe that's why we value family unity so deeply and work hard, staying committed to keeping our families strong and united.
...contrary my wife and I both come from divorce households and we promised to each other to never do this to our kids since this represented a pretty rough time in our childhood. We navigated the treacherous waters of raising 3 kids and after 25 years are still very happily married. It can work both ways with enough dedication and ability to compromise.
We have hurdles as I’m sure you did. The hardest thing in the world is to stay together through it, and I hope it continues for you (and me)
It’s so important to all of us, collectively.
Children have the best advantages in life with both parents.
yes ❤️
and the harder it has been and the more time you have invested, the stronger the relationship is and the more you value it.
the commitment to grow, care for each other, and face adversity together makes us stronger as a couple and as a family.
100%. Fostering a marriage across decades is not a walk in the park but it can be done successful if the proper partner is chosen. Of course some folks marry the wrong person and are doomed from the beginning. In that case no amount of managing will ever fix the fact that things just don't work.
i can attest to that, it happened to me.
it’s tough to trust a man again after that.
17 years alone. i didn't want to marry.