I think a lot of wives just work or study so that they're less embarrassed at public functions and find it easier to make friends.
"I have a job and stuff. I have a nice personality. He values my intellect. We met at work." 😏
It's like you need a financial cover story.
My wife does not do that.
But we're also incubated in an area with a large number of homemakers and stay at home mothers.
She loves it.
Until I grab her ass all day. Bahahaha
I do that. Completely self-conscious. 😂
And everyone has heard about how he was a broke college student when we met. Totally broke. And he had a crappy car.
Have I told you about how he was broke and had a crappy car, already?
He was broke and had a crappy car.
Just mentioning that for no reason. Just saying.
Also, he was a college student and totally broke. Don't know if I already mentioned that.
I'm very smart. I have a nice personality. I'm not as young as I look. It's just this weird thing. I have a real job. Few know this.
Did I tell you about how broke he was, when we met? He had this crappy car... LOL totally funny story...
It's sorta okay to be a SAHM, but being a housewife once the kids are grown is verboten. 🚫
Yeah, Women and Men are more than being a spouse or a parent. Even if someone is staying at home or doesn't rely on their own income, people have passions and hobbies.
I'm happy to know that the last thing people know about me is my occupation. Its unfortunate that some people think they need to have a cover story for their lives.
I didn't even realize that this is an issue that commands how women lead their lives, until I just quit my job and everyone is horrified and they don't calm down until I say that I'm studying at college.
Then they're like...
Ooooh... That's okay then.
And it's like, OMG I'm going to have to study or work forever, or I'll never have friends.
This helps explain why it seems like every "former SAHM" I know is working on their Master's Degree or Ph.D. 😂
Keep up appearances, so people don't think you're just house decoration.
I have a friend who has 2 Masters and an E.D. and she's working on a Ph.D. now. Like she's being chased by the ghosts of homemaking past.
SHE WILL NEVER LIVE IT DOWN! 😂
people are shit
thanks for reminding me how little they actually care about anything other than symbols of wealth and care nothing for the simple things that matter like justice and love and wisdom
the banker funded movement towards feminism is almost at its end, thank God
after the impending giant disasters that this shit show has got coming people are gonna value the SAHM a lot more because they will know that she is the pillar of society, without which people have no attachment to their home, family, or village, and such people only end up causing shit in the world
The funny part is that nobody even asks me if my quitting my job reduced our net income.
Everyone knows I didn't work, so that we could have more money. I worked, so that I could tell people that I worked.
you are a rare bird, lady... the rest of them are so glued to their status updates and have to make up shit so they don't lose friends while you are like "hah, i got plenty of friends here, they love listening to what i talk about, and they don't expect me to lie to them"
Yeah, basically.
Or maybe I'm just socially retarded.
well, this "social" thing that entails constant, and obvious lying doesn't sound like anything that we want in our society anyway... sounds more like a hierarchy of abuse to me
Some of the most important jobs are unpaid. A person who can make things happen and get things done without requiring a paycheck to motivate them is a person of value.
I was supposed to be learning more boolean algebra today like the Master Theorem and practicing inverting insertion sorts, but I went and cleaned the house and organized the closets, instead.
This is why I have no college degree and I'm such a disappointment to everyone. I'm some sort of an idiot.
The worst is when I try to focus on something and the voice in my head gets really loud and starts ranting at me to focus and think and it gets mean and just goes on and on and on and doesn't shut up and I can't hear my own thoughts over the ranting and I give up and go clean something or dig up weeds, and my husband comes home and is like, Hi 😊, did you get the practice drills done?
college degrees are mostly rubbish, having worked as a programmer for a lot of the last 8 years i can say that the only thing that really matters is architecture, that's the stuff i struggle with, everything else you can learn as you work
I think this is a benefit of meeting and having a baby later in life. I worked for 25 years, did the savings, the travel, whatever. Now I’m like, “yep happy to be home with the babe.” I do work two mornings from our home office, but it’s so I can buy ridiculous skin care, enter races, buy bitcoin. 😉
Oh, I agree.
If you stay at home with your kids in your 40s, then you're a loving mom.
Do it in your 20s and it's like LOL GET A DAMN JOB.
And now I'm in my 40s and everyone expects me to have a glamorous career, but I'm still tied to the home. Once you're a mom, you're a mom, and then you're stuck in post-homemaking "pretend to have a career, but don't take on any activity that keeps you from cooking dinner and doing the ironing, or requires you to travel more than 30 minutes from the house" for decades thereafter.
as a long time bachelor i can confirm that while i am capable of doing the linen and the ironing and the washing and the dishes and the mopping and sweeping... i'm a pro, actually, one of the fastest cleaners you will find, i'm far better at abstract logic and algorithms
speaking as a man, based on my ample experiences of wonderful, motherly women who i have had the pleasure of being part of my daily experienc:
fuck all those stupid people
as a woman, that feeling you get when the men are happy and do their dull, brutal expressions of appreciation for your careful art of domestic duties even at your low points
that's what it's all about
and these other stupid women just have never had that hole filled and it's the one that they have aching most of all, and they don't even know it
There is definitely this expectation. My friends who had their babies in their twenties all went back to work within 6mos. Some because they had to financially. Others because they felt it was their identity or that they wouldn’t be respected.
I do feel like there is an entirely different set of expectations once the kids are in school or out of the house. You must be productive and be available 24/7.
Even though my little is still little, “im like do you want a clean house and a raging bitch or a semi clean house and a happy loving partner?” Mamma’s got to do her things too!
A semi-clean house sounds pretty good, now.
I was working for a year and my house seems to have been hit by a tornado, in the meantime. I didn't even notice, while I was working and now I'm slowly cleaning and repairing everything and just cringing.
I had those pants waiting to be repaired since last summer. I just stopped seeing them, at some point.
And some of the bureau drawers are so stuffed with paper and crap that I can't open them. I kept buying scissors and pens because we couldn't find scissors and pens and I bet there are now a gazillion scissors and pens in those drawers.
And we're eating real food every day, again. I put on over 20 lbs while working. I was so exhausted that I just ate constantly. As soon as I stopped working, the cravings disappeared and I could sleep, again. I was eating myself to death and drinking two glasses of wine every night, just to fall asleep.
I'm so depressed looking at the mess. How could I let everything decay like that? I was like a zombie.
