#[0] it takes courage to open up and share your feelings with the world. It's clear that you're going through a challenging time, and I commend you for recognizing the need for change.

First of all, remember that you are not alone in this. Many people have felt stuck in jobs they don't enjoy or feel unfulfilled by their current situations. It's important to acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to process them without judgment.

It sounds like you have a dream of working on your own and being in control of your own path. That's fantastic! Self-employment can offer exciting opportunities for growth and fulfillment. However, it's essential to make a plan and take steps towards that goal while being realistic about what it entails.

Consider exploring different career paths or industries that align more closely with your interests and passions. Seek out learning opportunities or courses that can help develop any necessary skills. Networking can also be valuable in discovering new possibilities or connecting with like-minded individuals who may offer guidance.

Don't underestimate yourself – focus on the skills you do have, as well as any transferable abilities from previous experiences. Confidence plays a significant role in pursuing new opportunities.

Remember to be patient with yourself throughout this process because finding the right path takes time and effort. And most importantly, believe in yourself! Your determination

Thanks for sharing! I’ll give you some advice in steps: 🐶🐾🫂🫡

1) stop blaming your past self, it doesn’t solve your problem and distracts you from the real goals

2) start reading good books that inspire you, don’t focus only on learning new skills

3) as thought as it is, it could have been worse, so congratulate yourself on this accomplishment

4) get away from the phone and computer/tv, do something fun and recreational

5) start reflecting upon your day before going to sleep, focus on only finding positives

6) set a goal and break it down into sub-goals, track progress every day. If not much, don’t blame yourself again, just readjust and go forward

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You can do it, and you don’t even need to believe that you can!

I don't know how to help you right now. I know that feelings. It's hard to accept the fact that your life is not what you imagined when you were young. I hope you'll find a new job and/or start own business. Don't forget to love yourself for who you are.

Oh, Franny, I'm so sorry for you 🫂 I don't know if I can give you any advice. I have learned in the last few months how precious life is and how quickly it can be over. So I have resolved to value life above all else. Now, of course, you need money to be able to shape your life. You say you would like to be self-employed. What is stopping you? Do you have any idea what you would like to do? What help would you need? Who would support you?

I myself realized during my studies that I didn't want to be in the grind of a company and started my own business. It was scary. What I do has little to do with my studies and I know the feeling of being unskilled. My family was not happy about my decision. Money was often tight. But I can tell you one thing, I glow when I work or talk about my work. I am grateful for every day. Still am.

And I believe that there is so much in you. Don't let a crappy job take away your joy in life

You can do it.

Life is hard, it sucks at times.

Listen to yourself,

You can do it.

A lotus flower grows from the mud.

I see a lot of engagement and support from people that mean well. It seems like they know you somewhat also. I’m just a guy on Nostr who likes your gardening and nature posts so I follow you.

I don’t know or follow anyone that commented on this post and it seems like they all came from a place of love and good intentions.

However, I live the life you want to live. I wake up when I want. Go to sleep when I’m tired and pretty much do whatever I want all day long. There is lots of hard work, but I choose what I do. I haven’t had a “job” or an employer since I was 25, I’m 49. I’m not “lucky” or exceptionally talented. I’ve always been very self deterministic and I really can’t stand being told what to do.

Here’s my advice, quit. Quit feeling bad, quit the things that make you feel bad. Don’t do the things you hate. You know you are in the rat race that you hate and the people around you at work are asleep and toxic just by being part of the system. Then you talk about getting more education to sink you farther into the system you hate? That’s what I taught my kids was “stinkin thinkin.”

I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I’ve spent a lot of energy going in the wrong direction on several things. One thing I’m sure of is that if I lost everything I built, I would rather live in a van and be poor while I rebuilt than allow myself to be in a situation that made me feel like you do right now.

As I get older I realize that I do not regret my mistakes or the things I did, but rather the things I didn’t do. Go do the things that make you happy. Let go of what you’ve been told you need and find out what fulfills you.

Or don’t, like I said, I’m just a guy on Nostr, scrolling through the people I follow while I have a cup of coffee and wait for it to get light enough to feed the animals. I don’t care.

Thank you for sharing and sorry to hear that you are feeling like this. A few things I’ve learned myself that might be helpful to think about are

- Try not to get too attached to a job or company and let it take over your life. Once you have finished for the day find some ways to clear your mind. For me I like to go for a walk, spend time with family, spend time on hobbies I enjoy.

- Figure out what it is exactly that you don’t like about your job, is it the company, people you work with, the particular role you are doing or the type of work in general. If it is the type of work then maybe studying to do something different is the best option, it may seem hard and time consuming now but could be more rewarding in the future.

- Most importantly, you need to stay positive and believe in yourself! You have skills and experience that are valuable to another employer and you have the ability to learn and grow. From my experience helping to hire staff in the past, finding a person with the right attitude and willingness to adapt and learn is probably more important than them having the exact skills for a role.

- If you are considering starting your own business then maybe that is something you can start small with and build gradually while still working in your existing job. That way challenge may not seem so hard and you have something positive to focus on after work.

"Its always darkest before dawn."

Thats my favorite quote for times like this. Just remember to keep moving forward. Lots of comfort and great advice has been shared here so I mine will be brief.

We all go through these moments...even after you have what you want. Its part of this wild experience as a human.

Geting out from comfort zone is most diffficult thing. I am still there... Geting on job that not realy like but hate is probably accurate feeling. But it provide me a solid pay. Out of my job hours i don't think about it at all. Stackin sats, doing my thing that i love and hang with friends. Fixed to my goal, soverignty. Maybe it's not diffficult to achieve that state of mind because i'm positive at core. Sending u positive vibe, fix it on things u love. 🫂🧡

Same fight.

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in the same position living on 10 usd a day,but applying for more jobs each day

Everyday you are a day closer to your dreams, have faith and figth, theres isn't another option!

A life well lived is one in which, despite the final outcome, we fight the good fight. There is no right path, there is only the path we choose. So just go!

Be Here Now!

Trust your journey. Know that where you are now is where you are meant to be. It doesn't mean you will be there forever.

Go into work doing your absolute best. Get so friggin awesome at your job that that the Universe will have no other choice but to give you an upgrade. And then put yourself in as close proximity to as many places and situations that you would like to be in as often as you can. Doors will start to open that you didn't even know existed.

Write a 10 things you are grateful for everyday (purposefully including things about your current job).

Hang in there. Most people have felt like this at some point. Acknowledge your feelings and choose how to respond.

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People, especially women, finding spiritual fulfillment through paid employment is weird. For instance, I knew a guy who worked just so he'd be able to go camping with his kids: the work was just a means to an end. I mean it can happen, but it's rarer than anyone lets ever lets on to young people.

Was kind of in that same situation for too long. I got a sociophobic disorder from that.

I know that things feel like they won't get better even if you change your job. The missing energy leads to being overwhelmed by each change in your usual habits.

But it can only get better. Don't wait until you have to places where you don't want to be. I felt bad going to work and felt even worse going home in the last week's of my old job. Don't let this spill over to your private life.

From my experience I can tell you that there are companies searching for people that are not educated in a specific field but have the wilcland motivation to learn something new.

That's how I (just a warehousing clerk) am now working in a dental laboratory taking care of the machines and "digital stuff".