Things that work for us and I would recommend:

Look into how to cosleep safely.

Breastfeed if you can and nurse to sleep. Have a plan for what you’ll do if you cannot breastfeed.

Have a bassinet beside the bed for when you CAN transfer the baby there if you want to. We put ours there whenever we think she can get to sleep there, and she often does, more and more often.

Sometimes a baby rouses from sleep just enough to cry a little bit, then goes back to sleep. Most of the time, if they’re crying, they need something.

Have a pump and, if you can, store at least enough milk at all times for a few meals. I had a medical emergency shortly after giving birth and it was very good that I had a stored milk supply so my in-laws were able to feed my child breastmilk while I received medical attention.

Take it easy on yourselves. BUT:

Get out and about, back to your routine as soon as you can without pushing yourselves, and bring the baby everywhere with you. Let them learn from watching you and learn to fall asleep anywhere, even in the middle of noisy gatherings.

Learn what is in vaccines, the history vs. current practice of vaccines, decide what you’d like to do, and find a pediatrician who will support your decision. A list of vaccine-flexible pediatricians is accessible through this site https://drgreenmom.com/find-a-vaccine-friendly-doctor/ and if you choose to vaccinate at all, a website with ingredients is https://vaccines.procon.org/vaccine-ingredients-and-manufacturer-information/

Mothers lose many minerals during pregnancy. Replenishing them postpartum is a good idea.

I overheard once (and did no follow up research, so grain of salt) that selenium deficiency may contribute to postpartum depression, so starting in the third trimester, I’ve been eating Brazil nuts even though I HATE them 😂 you have to be careful not to eat too many, though.

Babies don’t smile for about the first month of life! I didn’t know this and felt better knowing I wasn’t a horrible mom, the only one whose baby was always either sad or asleep 😂

Sometimes babies will rouse from sleep enough to cry just a little, then go back to sleep. Other times they will keep crying because they need something. You’ll learn how to tell.

1 is NOT the smallest size diaper 😂 get newborn diapers!!

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. Your lifestyle needs to remain practical or you will burn out.

Don’t let people scare, guilt, or annoy you. People will come out of the woodwork with advice and truisms that may go counter to your whole worldview or be just plain silly. Listen to as much as you wish, but trust yourself to make good decisions and remember it’s not their baby and it doesn’t really matter what they think. Me included 😉