Some of y’all need to work on your concept of a random dealbreaker and not a totally typical one.
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Damn, that's how you know someone's scarred/triggered 😂😂 all I saw was deal-breaker
You were not alone. I think a lot of people have forgotten that dating should be fun. It’s sounding like y’all are out there surviving wars.
Hahaha yeah my friends are always saying that 😂😂 but it gets scary when people get close. I catch deep feelings so being single is preferred for me 🙏😅 I can't seem to date for fun, cos when I like someone I reaaaaallly like them
Are we talking about you or me? I so relate.
Thank god I was starting to think there was something wrong with me 😂 other people can be so detached while dating, I'm jealous
Do you find that you’re attracted to fewer people than your friends? Or like I know people who go on dates with people they’re meh about and I feel like I’m misrepresenting myself and wasting someone’s time.
Yeah 💯%, It will be one guy that stands out to me in random moments of life and I'll think, 'oh he's lovely' and it's usually the guy no one else seems to notice much or be attracted to 😂. I don't even have a type, it's odd, it's just someones aura I'm attracted to. But, yeah it's few and far between and like you I just don't want to waste anyone's time. My guy friends have tried picking people for me and they picked a lovely guy honestly, but if I don't feel anything I can't force it. Do you think passion can grow from nothing? I have been attracted to people who I initially wasn't attracted to after getting to know them, but if you talk to them and still nothing?
Oh I can totally find people attractive after conversation and interaction. I can also see someone who is objectively handsome and then they open their mouth and I’m like hard no. Someone intelligent and curious is really attractive to me. I think you need at least a mustard seed for attraction to grow. My longer relationships have been with guys I didn’t take notice of at first. Either my mind was on another guy. (I seem to crush monogamously 😂) Or something just shifted and I was like oh hey you.
Smell is also a weird thing for me. I met a man who seemed perfect in every way. It wasn’t a hygiene issue. His smell was just wrong somehow, like the pheromones were off. I don’t know how to explain it.
Attraction is so weird.
💯 agree! Haha yeah looks really aren't the end all be all - they are somewhat important cos of the initial attraction but what keeps you is so much more. Yeahh smart guys are ✨👌.
Totally agree. My friend Joe was like 'just see how it goes' but I can't do that 🫠 what if he caught feelings and I decided he wasn't for me and I've just led him on so I could experiment ? 😭 that's awful I can't do that. But that is basically what dating is I suppose...
Omg I crush monogamously too! 😂 Ah see I'm a little different. My longest relationship I noticed right away - he didn't notice me 😂. I saw him across the room in class and his eyes were like those cartoon sparkly eyes and I thought, 'yepp, he's the one'😌. *Whispers* He wasn't the one 😂👀.
Ohh that's interesting 🤔 that's fair though, I totally agree attraction is a mystery 😂💯