Online dating is dumb and im hella bad at it.
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So true, don't get catfished by a torta 🫂
"No, I don't use social media, except for some niche decentralized platform that you Have probably never heard of, I'd rather grab a coffee in person instead of face timing, also I don't have an iPhone ."
Some chicks say they want to settle down at homestead until it's actually time to do so. 🤣
Also, I'm shit at small talk. So when somebody says "other", is their political beliefs, I'm like, oh does that mean you Lean towards crypto anarchism as well?.......sadly It's usually communism.
I would bring up topics tangential to homesteading that are more mainstream to gauge their response.
Cooking - do you cook at home? what do you like making? what's your go to recipe?
Baking bread - see if they've made sourdough before. that'd be a winner imo, but yeasted bread would be cool too
Crafts - crochet, knitting. a potential homesteader would be interested in these skills.
Gardening - maybe they grow their own food forest, maybe they care for and propogate indoor plants
online dating as a woman is a different ball game so take my replies with a grain of salt, but hopefully it can give you some insight.
anyone asking to connect via other social media right off the bat seems sus to me. they either want to dig more into who you are before they actually meet you or they're a scammer.
wanting to meet offline right at the get is totally valid. that was my approach too. I had dudes wanting to call me or FaceTime me before meeting up and that showed me that they were not the type of person I was interested in. I let them know when I was next available to meet up and let them take the lead from there. As a man, you might have to take a little more initiative to set up a date but the idea is the same. Offline meet is a priority.
Yeah, I know online dating for females is a total fucking landmine and I'll generally take any advice you have. 😅 its been a long time since ive put myself out there.
Having strong filters (aka being weird) reduces wasted time.
The vapids know who they are and want nothing to do with a non NPC.
All in the framing. How much money have you saved not buying dinner for women incapable of an intelligent conversation?
Probably loads. That is an extremely fair point.
I met my wife online. I had a joke opening line on my profile that every woman I knew said was awful. A few woman messaged me back that I looked interesting but they couldn't get past that joke so it was a no.
Every woman I got a date with loved that joke, my wife included. A few even said the joke was the only reason they agreed to a date. My wife still laughs and tells people about it years later.
TLDR, quality over quantity.
absolutely.
In a very blue state, I was adamant about dating someone who owned guns and was active about learning/training.
In my dating profile section about conversation starters, I asked whether they preferred gas piston or direct impingement. iykyk.
I only ever got one person who asked about it and we had an intelligent conversation on the topic. Ended up marrying that one.
Craft your profile specifically to scare off the normies. Use decent pictures. Make your desired communication medium(s) & preferance for coffee dates abundantly clear in your profile (Telegram isn't too unpopular if you have that). Say something like "If you want to talk about the best ways to escape monetary debasement & govt censorship then send me a message!" Or something like "If you are more concerned with social status & social acceptance, than with right & wrong, then I'm not your guy."
If you avoided the covid jabs then making it clear that you are only interested in fellow unjabbed people is a good screen. There are also many who genuinely regret getting jabbed. If you have had sex with people who are jabbed then you should disclose that early on because it will be a dealbreaker for the unjabbed who are most serious about finding a fellow "pure blood."
Be clear & firm about what you want & then be paitent. When pushed on any of your positions, just make it clear that you don't want to end up feeling trapped in a relationship with someone who does not understand your reasoning & motivations, & wish them luck in their search.
There is an art to asking simple questions that might tell you a lot about someone. Did Epstein kill himself? Is Epstein still alive? Wear hats or t-shirts that might make the right people laugh or comment. Who you might piss off doesn't matter, you need to find ways to identify all the likeminded people in random places.