Women like tall men with wide shoulders and backs, narrow hips, and strong legs. They like muscular men, but aren't as obsessed with big, bulging muscles, as men themselves are.

They prefer faces that tend masculine, but not overly so. They are generally flexible about coloring and ethnicity, but will be obsessed with one type of man (the one she is with or wants to be with), but they adapt quickly and switch type, when the opportunity arises. This seems to be a genetic artefact of bride-stealing and war capture, and underlies Stockholm Syndrom (which is just women adapting to their circumstances, rather than a mental disorder).

They are turned on by aggressive, slightly frightening men (but not creepy ones; difficult to discern the difference), but don't like to keep them around for long because they get tired of being scared all the time and worry that he'll shake the baby and sleep around. (He will.)

They like witty, wealthy, intelligent men (but I repeat myself) and are disgusted by anything craven or overly emotive.

They like being "allowed" to work, if they want to, but sometimes chafe at "having" to work, as they usually consider that his job.

They want him to lead, by making all the important decisions, so long as she agrees with those decisions.

Women are complicated.

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This is so well written. The paradoxical and sometimes orthogonal design of male-female desires and decision making is like the creative-destruction engine that pushes humanity forward. Really magical.

it truly is.

this is the line that did it for me:

"They want him to lead, by making all the important decisions, so long as she agrees with those decisions."

i could write an essay on this and still not figure out exactly what i’m trying to express, but this is why i prefer female leadership—it *kinda* cuts through some of that noise.

i guess i could sum it up in one question:

"what do you want to eat for dinner?"

She doesn't truly want to know what *i* want for dinner (most of the time), what She's typically looking for is one of two things:

1. help Her figure out what She wants to eat (present options)

2. free Her from the burden of making every detailed decision

either way, it shows Her that i'm engaged and not being passive in the relationship.

This is the perrenial conversation all couples have to deal with. It's like the Japanese Ko-an that breaks your brain and which can only be answered by subtle and unspoke mutual submission so that your minds can triangulate on tacos.

lol 😹

what is life?

...

tacos.

😂

But, like, if you can figure out what she wants to eat and suggest it, on the first try, she'll be like OMG HE TOTALLY UNDERSTANDS ME WE ARE SOULMATES.

As I've said before, Im pretty much convinced I got my wife making her pasta.

lol

ugh...

out of roughly 4,000 days of marriage, i've only gotten it "right," on the first try, a score or so...

;_____;

Complicated is putting it lightly, imo😅🤷.

But, I will say that the complexity that comes with choosing a partner is necessary (to varying extents) after considering the numerous physical and psychological threats that women may potentially face during relationships, many of which men will never have to endure.

This

Too many men are too lazy or just don't care to try to understand the dynamics. But... whatever. I'm done trying to preach this to max-normies.