Reminds me of an inside joke I have about one of my ex's kids
Discussion
This is random. But does it ever feel weird to date someone with kids? I don’t have kids. Totally old enough to have kids. Still sometimes I’m like hmmm interesting you have whole children you created and are responsible for, wild man.
I did date someone with a kid once. She introduced me to her Dad’s family as her friend. I thought it was adorable.
I dated and am still in a relationship with my wife who had two kids when I met her. I think it’s unfair to the children to date someone with kids if you’re not planning on being around for them consistently. Of course dating the person might not work out, and that’s unfortunate but I think the mindset is still important.
I agree with your sentiment. I’m in the periphery. I don’t think she remembers that I ever dated her Dad. He has since passed away. I met him and his daughter at the same time. So there was never any how are you gonna meet my kid discussions.
I was planning to marry her🤷🏽 she's the one who left.
Even so, now they live with their dad, but when he's at work they're at the house because they still see my mom as grandma🤷🏽
It's a little weird yeah.
I'm probably a dick 🤷🏽
But the biggest thing for me was like I dunno. Her kids honestly were kind of annoying. I like kids. I used to work with kids for many years. I always saw it as training to be a good dad one day. And because I want kids eventually and since it seems like around my age range in my region if you're a single lady and looking seems like the 2 given factors are going to be that you already have kids and you don't drive, I felt I had to lower my standards to that baseline?
I loved her. Really really. But her kids were annoying. And I felt like if they were my kids either I would have raised them to weed out done of those tendencies, or I dunno maybe when it's your own flesh and blood kid the unconditional love kicks in and I wouldn't care? But yeah.
I didn't feel like I could discipline them because they weren't mine mine. Yeah. It caused some weirdness and issues🤷🏽
Ooo I don’t think I could date someone with annoying kids. It takes a lot for me to class a kid as annoying. I was lucky the one guy I dated with a kid, had an awesome kid.
Right?
Then if you did date one with an annoying kid you're looking at yourself like it's a kid! You can't blame them! I'm the one with the issue then. Can I really call the kid annoying. Yada yada
I know some annoying kids but I totally blame their parents for their poor behavior.
I would tend to agree.
But it's hard for me to admit that in this situation because of the 3 times in my life I've been IN LOVE IN LOVE that was one.
Even if we broke up because she up she disappeared and I find it later ran off with some dude that was letting her drink then she end in jail for 2 years for slitting that dudes throat after living homeless in the street with him for a month or 2 after we split🤷🏽
Still loved her. And she was a different person when we were together up until she decided she was an alcoholic near the end of our relationship🤷🏽
Holy shit! You win some terrible ex award. 🏆 No wonder the kids had issues.
That's just 1 ex.
Oh honey who are you dating? And what kind of crazy are you bringing to the table?
They're never crazy when I'm with em🤷🏽 it's always after we break up that their life takes a crazy turn.
HS sweetheart, without writing you a novel...
Went from full ride scholarship at Harvard to stripping in the city of industry after spending 3 months in jail🤷🏽
As for me, yeah I definitely think I'm done kind of crazy, but I don't think I'm a hurtful or drive you crazy kind of way? I'm more spiritual, artsy, express yourself, be as weird as possible kind of way🤷🏽
Astrology is a lot of take the meanings that stick and not the ones that don't do a lot of people call it mumbo jumbo, but if it helps them why not🤷🏽 but I'm an aquarius, with a lot of Capricorn in my chart. Which means Saturn and Uranus have giant pulls over various parts of my life and mind, this was explained to me once that I'm basically walking karma🤷🏽 fuck with me and shit doesn't turn out well for you. Not that I do anything specifically, but that I put out a lot of positive and good into the world so the universe tends to want to give me back what I put out.
Which is probably also why the relationship issues. I'm in WANT so the universe gives me more WANT instead of have.
Huh I wonder what would happen if you focused on the love you have
Maybe.
I was always told. You need to focus on yourself. It learn to live yourself. Which I think I do🤷🏽
But yeah a lesson I've learned over and over and over in life is don't care what people think. People like me better when I do what I want 🤷🏽
So I've been kind of just not caring since this most recent ex. Not looking or trying like at all. And I've actually had pretty ok luck with people coming up to be instead. It's flattering and I know they're actually interested I guess rather than the 50/50.
Danny Trejo once said "Son, you're the tequila, not the chaser."
That Danny Trejo quote is 🔥 I will say on reflection tequila that your shooting and need a chaser with is not the best tequila. I’d rather be better sipped.
I think the way most people go about learning to love themselves is bs. Love and relationships don’t happen in isolation. I do think the society we live in places too much emphasis on romantic love. Sometimes people need to step back from dating. They can still practice their ability to give and receive love in other relationships. I guess I default to the idea, for it is in giving, we receive.
Danny Trejo quote may or may not be made up🤷🏽 but someone said it?!
But I took not being the chaser to mean don't go out and go after it so hard. The people want the tequila whether they're shooting or sippin🤷🏽
That second paragraph his me right here 🖤 I need to ponder that 🖤🤍
Like all my art is basically about that. Ideals, wishes, dreams, and ofuscations of things long past🤷🏽 boiled down to one word, Love.
I’ve been single for a while so I should probably make a conscious effort to date. It’s exhausting. Where I’m currently located the dating pool is more like a mud puddle. Also I would like to relocate. So it just seems rude to date here.
I want.
But exhaustion is a good word.
Same here, but it's a dating ocean full of Communists that don't know they're Communists. I'm like a 1%er here. Looking at moving to the tropics soon. 6 month timeline.