I don't think that mindset is as common as you might think. Women I know hear things like "I don't want to be a baby factory" or "So what, you let a parasite grow inside of you."
This causes a lot of resentment toward women who think having children is a waste or whatever. Never have I heard "I am unable to have a child" met with anything but sympathy from women I know. It is only people who use "parasite" language who respond with cheers or shaming for even trying.
Hm. Most of the women I hear from have struggled with fertility and the pressure people put on them. Many of them have put forth 100,000s of satoshis on IVF and what not
By pressure you mean saying "try anyway" or something like that?
As far as IVF there are moral considerations because of the multiple acts of conception that are "discarded" which to an anti-abortion person creates a quandry.
1. Advocate for having babies.
Or
2. Advocate agaibst discarding fertilized embryos.
It's definitely a difficult position.
“Have you tried IVF? Maybe you should freeze your eggs or get another surgery?”
Yeah, it's a brutal position. It's no real consolation but the idea is they are hoping you have a child. It reminds me of when a woman is going through something and tells her husband, because men like to fix things he suggests actions to take instead of just holding her and listening to her. I do this all the time with my wife. She tells me how she feels, I say "why don't you do [such-and-such] solution." And she just gets more upset. I love her and I am coming from a place of love but, that's not what she needs.
Yup. That’s a big man thing and I LOVE that puzzles wants to fix everything, but usually a hug will do the trick 😂
