11% of menstruating women suffer from infertility in America.
That means a lot of women are childless not by choice.
Endometriosis alone affects 1/10 women (myself included).
I’m trying to be and want to be a mother, but it’s not a guarantee for me.
If you have children, maybe you should focus on being grateful for them instead of shaming those who can’t.
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Amen sister 🙏🏻 best take I’ve seen on here today.
Like bitch I can’t heal my uterus to appease your ass
I’ve watched so many friends go through this. But no one gets judged like a woman. They judge us for having kids, judge us for what age we have kids, judge us for fostering, for adopting, they judge us for not having kids… it never ends. I got my kid in the most unconventional way, and people judge that too. 🤣 I still want babies though! It’s still on the table.
Most times, I just laugh and call people idiots, but it’s rough how often I’m hearing about it lately.
Most of the idiots don’t even know what a pelvic floor is, let alone how the rest of it works. Blissful ignorance so they can judge away.
Also, I got told on here the other day if I don’t have a husband I can look for one 🤣
We got judged as a couple. Equal opportunity judgy douchebags. 😂
When are y'all going to get married? >>> Give it time, you'll hate each other.
Isn't it about time y'all had a kid? >>> Y'all aren't going to have another kid?
These retards never stop. They're not happy until you do the same dumb shit they did in the exact same way so you can be just as miserable.
A big issues is the lie we were taught “oh! You can have children later.”
No, actually it’s incredibly difficult after 30 to have children.
Just something the subversive jew feminists promote to stop successful white Christians from flourishing.
You can adopt, still *your* child 💗🥲🙏🏽
I hope everything works out the way you want
Me too, but I’m not gonna have unrealistic expectations
Adoption could be a valid option. Not sure if you guys talked about it
We have, but are gonna try naturally first and then discuss
For us, after a year and half, actually helped when he went to the doctor. Until then it was all fault on my side, surgery, meds, diet, then doctor found out husband actually had some slight inflammation and bang, kid happened before he finished his antibiotics. I'm not saying it's universal, but the tendency to throw everything on endometriosis is high.
That part! Men have to prepare for fatherhood too. People act like women just make babies without men…
Fortunately it's not a thing atound us here, but it's common, yeah. Anyway when you're diagnosed with this shit, it's basically given it won't work on your side. I didn't undergo the surgery Noshole did just because I went down with one day fever day before. My mind REALLY doesn't like my body being opened. Luckily we found out about that inflammation, because after year and half of trying it started to take a toll on us.
I like when the simplest answer fixes things. Like, stop beating up on the woman, take care of the man’s health, and boom. Done. So simple!
It's easy😃 Healing endometriosis during pregnancy is the second worse thing I went through tho. And the cunt comes back. Such awful stuff.
My mom had it. She was told she would never have a kid. Yet here I am.
A friend thought she had it. She went through years of seeing doctors and getting no relief. Turned out much of the issue wasn’t endo at all—she had a spinal problem.
I could go on… but doctors don’t know shit is the point.
I don't think that mindset is as common as you might think. Women I know hear things like "I don't want to be a baby factory" or "So what, you let a parasite grow inside of you."
This causes a lot of resentment toward women who think having children is a waste or whatever. Never have I heard "I am unable to have a child" met with anything but sympathy from women I know. It is only people who use "parasite" language who respond with cheers or shaming for even trying.
Hm. Most of the women I hear from have struggled with fertility and the pressure people put on them. Many of them have put forth 100,000s of satoshis on IVF and what not
By pressure you mean saying "try anyway" or something like that?
As far as IVF there are moral considerations because of the multiple acts of conception that are "discarded" which to an anti-abortion person creates a quandry.
1. Advocate for having babies.
Or
2. Advocate agaibst discarding fertilized embryos.
It's definitely a difficult position.
“Have you tried IVF? Maybe you should freeze your eggs or get another surgery?”
Yeah, it's a brutal position. It's no real consolation but the idea is they are hoping you have a child. It reminds me of when a woman is going through something and tells her husband, because men like to fix things he suggests actions to take instead of just holding her and listening to her. I do this all the time with my wife. She tells me how she feels, I say "why don't you do [such-and-such] solution." And she just gets more upset. I love her and I am coming from a place of love but, that's not what she needs.
Yup. That’s a big man thing and I LOVE that puzzles wants to fix everything, but usually a hug will do the trick 😂
I think it’s weird how a lot of people here complain about the coercion and theft that the government commits but then also expects you to live the way they think is right: have children and dedicate your life to raising them.
this is so, so true
Wifey received a lot of grief for years at family gatherings for something out of Her control. it's infuriating hearing the things people—relatives even—say to women without any consideration.
Yup, I’ve gotten it from my own family as well
It is sad, I have heard endometriosis often goes untreated! Which could have prevented most problems in the first place. I keep hearing horror stories where doctors are quick to dismiss a woman's pain especially when it comes to anything to do with the vagina. It is just a sucky situation which women are often shamed for. 😣 🫂
Yrrrrrrrr
My wife discovered to have endometriosis and she got pregnant a month after the discovery. Now we have 3 children.
Don't loose hope.
Thank you. Stories like this are why I’m trying, but I’m gonna have realistic expectations
If i were 10 years younger, I'd totally be a surrogate for you. Love you, boo.
Aww you have a great oven 🥰 love you too babe. Whatever happens is suppose to happen
If you flip this it means that 89% of childless women are in fact childless by choice.
If those statistics were accurate, there would be 0% of women getting pregnant and that’s just straight false.
What I’m saying is that while yes fertility issues exist and have always existed many fertile women are simply opting out of motherhood. And while i agree it’s wrong to shame people with legitimate medical issues. Childlessness by choice is not immune to criticism. Male or female.
No. That’s what you’re saying now and I agree to a certain extent, but I do not agree that every woman who is biologically ready to conceive is able to achieve the level of responsibility, selflessness, and financial stability that is required to have a child. I don’t think the purpose of life is to simply create children. Anyone can do that, but to put in all the resources to raise a child well is the true meaning. There are many women who become mothers who probably shouldn’t have.
I didn’t have a good mother. I’m still happy to be alive. I don’t think motherhood needs to be some kind of master’s thesis where you turn in a completed work of perfection. It’s ok for it to be messy and chaotic and to do it poorly. Even bad mothers are still important.
Opting out of motherhood is a very complex decision.
Outside of both of you misrepresenting the real statistics...
1. It's difficult to find a male counterpart to achieve this goal.
2. Some women (& men) are mentally volatile to the point they don't feel fit to be mothers.
3. Family support behind the woman can be lacking which could deter them & this is a natural instinct - it takes a village.
4. Some people live in a terrible location, environment can change you big time - maybe if they moved out of mega cities they would be more willing.
Its fairly uncommon to find someone outside of this purview who has a willing husband, simply opting out.
So much stress put on women to get pregnant also causes infertility. I know more than one woman who got pregnant after the "pressure" was off, one was an adoption and another was an in vitro pregnancy. Just have fun for a bit and see if it takes, then ask for help.
I’m not really stressing on anything other than the pain part. Going off those hormones really fucks me up, but it’s the only way 🤷♀️
People can be asses on here. Especially when it involves women. It’s probably the biggest reason I’m not 100% in on Nostr even if I’m Nostr only.
At the moment, I wish more than anything for you to have children of your own! I hope your dream comes true! Don't give up. Many couples try to get pregnant for more than a year and then succeed. 💜🫂🙏
If it doesn't work out, you can also consider adoption ... I think any child who can have you as a mother will be happy
Ooo no worries. My journey has only just started, but it’s important for me to have realistic expectations and empathize with the women who also struggle 🥰
