If you flip this it means that 89% of childless women are in fact childless by choice.
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If those statistics were accurate, there would be 0% of women getting pregnant and that’s just straight false.
What I’m saying is that while yes fertility issues exist and have always existed many fertile women are simply opting out of motherhood. And while i agree it’s wrong to shame people with legitimate medical issues. Childlessness by choice is not immune to criticism. Male or female.
No. That’s what you’re saying now and I agree to a certain extent, but I do not agree that every woman who is biologically ready to conceive is able to achieve the level of responsibility, selflessness, and financial stability that is required to have a child. I don’t think the purpose of life is to simply create children. Anyone can do that, but to put in all the resources to raise a child well is the true meaning. There are many women who become mothers who probably shouldn’t have.
I didn’t have a good mother. I’m still happy to be alive. I don’t think motherhood needs to be some kind of master’s thesis where you turn in a completed work of perfection. It’s ok for it to be messy and chaotic and to do it poorly. Even bad mothers are still important.
Opting out of motherhood is a very complex decision.
Outside of both of you misrepresenting the real statistics...
1. It's difficult to find a male counterpart to achieve this goal.
2. Some women (& men) are mentally volatile to the point they don't feel fit to be mothers.
3. Family support behind the woman can be lacking which could deter them & this is a natural instinct - it takes a village.
4. Some people live in a terrible location, environment can change you big time - maybe if they moved out of mega cities they would be more willing.
Its fairly uncommon to find someone outside of this purview who has a willing husband, simply opting out.