Any statement of should is an imposition of one's value system onto someone else
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Yeah she sounds woke and entitled.
Man you are speaking my mind. A healthy person doesn’t have ‘should’ in their vocabulary. I could speak for hours on this.
Please 🙏 speak on this. People who don’t consider the “shoulds” are typically unbalanced IMLE.
I have and I'm currently writing a book chapter on the subject 🤙
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6j7hI6YzTTykhXIqx2l4Jr nostr:nprofile1qqs2klv3wpgz22yav9y6m84p40zvunzf24wlwxgy72gnds3r0p02dacpzamhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnzv9hxgtcpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7qgawaehxw309ahx7um5wghxy6t5vdhkjmn9wgh8xmmrd9skctcymtesp
Wookiefoot nailed it like usual:
Coool
Should is fine but it should probably go with an “if”. Often times the if statement is left out , and then it becomes the vague imposition if a value system.
Like “if you want your dough to rise faster, you should put it in warm humid environment”. Nothing wrong w that
Yeah sure. It can get pedantic. For people I aim to use could instead, along with encouragement instead of direction. And in your example ‘it’, eg “if you want the dough to rise faster, it needs to be in a warm humid environment”, that way it’s presented as an opportunity for the person to own without an implication of being wrong, the focus is on the dough not them.
My thinking is more or less that of Adler, and his ideas of horizontal not vertical relationship structures.