As someone who has spent 92% of my adult life single, I genuinely believe that people can be happy and content without having a partner or children.
Don’t compromise your life just because external forces expect you to. Always seek happiness within, it’s the most important thing.
This is true if you’re a third worlder.
If you’re white, your people are dying. It’s absurdly selfish to not attempt procreate. Though, if you’ve been single most your life this seems like a you problem that you need to fix first.
Ohhhhh, you’re a faggot “anarchist.”
Yeah, don’t have kids, the world will be wayyyyy better off.
That's fine if you're content with that, but understand that you're only experiencing happiness in the demo version of the game. You haven't even played the actual game yet until you have (or adopted) a kid. Then there's the DLC with the grandkids...
One of the biggest problems I see around me is that marriage and having children are treated as social obligations rather than conscious choices. Many people step into them without truly reflecting, as if they are things they must do. Personally, I believe it is far healthier for people to first find peace within themselves and then build a family from that place, rather than raising unhappy children within unhappy marriages that were never built on solid foundations. And I do understand what you mean. I have a baby niece, and she has been an incredible source of happiness in my life since the day she was born. But I also believe that people should truly assess themselves before choosing to build a family and have children, because it is a serious responsibility, and every child deserves a happy life.
> you're only experiencing happiness in the demo version of the game
Strongly disagree. I fully respect people who make the conscious decision to have children, but for plenty of people, this just isn't the right choice.
Happiness can come from a wide range of sources aside from reproduction.
always another level
of course they can, and as we are freer from peer pressure more people make the conscious choice to not have a partner or children. this was unthinkable for older generations (i live in Spain). if you do whatever makes you happy and don't hurt anyone, how can that be wrong? live and let live.
that being said, i love having a partner and a kid at home. i love this kind of life, but i don't think it's for everyone.
Exactly. Here in Turkey, it’s still expected to have a family as soon as you graduate from school. I find it unthealy the rheotoric that the only meaning of life is having a family. It upsets me to see people rush into these things and end up unhappy, or base their happiness on external expectations. Every way of living life is meaningful and beautiful.
some societies are more conservative and it takes some courage to forge your own path. as you say, doing it just because "i am supposed to" can backfire badly, i've seen it close and it leaves a lot of people damaged..
i agree with you and as you said, happiness must be found within. wish you a happy and fulfilling life!
Thank you! Wishing you a happy life too.
"Every way of living life is meaningful and beautiful."
What if someone's way of living life is to kidnap and eat other people? What if he "loves" doing so? After all, in your world view, the nebulous concept of "love" is all that matters.
Your quality of life will continue to degrade if you do not wake up to the fact that not all value systems are equal.
Morals are not subjective. You will continue having to adopt these retarded and degenerate world views to cope, like being a "queer muslim", but when they collapse, it will probably be too late for you
If someone’s life decisions affect no one but themselves, I genuinely struggle to understand why other people feel the need to involve themselves so deeply in something that has nothing to do with them.
That's a big "if"
None of our actions happen in a vacuum, especially if you understand the opportunity cost, the positive things you could have done instead.
But I'm speaking generally. I don't really care if you personally continue the lonely gay spinster path you're on, but you shouldn't try to convince others it's something positive
The lies you tell yourself will only compound your mental illness
My most miserable time in my life was the 3 years after my divorce before I met my current wife. To each their own I guess but having a life partner to share with makes me happy... Not sure about having children, but the grandchildren is priceless...
It’s a beautiful gift to find a partner you’re happy to share your life with
Great note. Developing a meditation practice is the most direct path to cultivating self love and acceptance, in my experience.
Strongly agree
Not gonna be a popular take with the "Bitcoin Dads of Nostr"....
Because of the Right-of-center cultural alignment of the Bitcoin space these days, there's a strong "natalist" narrative that tends to spill through. "Men should be men, women should stay home and raise children", etc.
I guess I’m on a mission to break nostr’s echo chamber (it’s a struggle)
I like you 💝
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Obviously secular (hedonistic) women in their 20s and early 30s are happier as singles without kids. they have more free time, more disposable income, less responsibility.
the problem is when you hit late 30s, 40s when you realize your home is empty, your friends betrayed you, your parents left this world and your siblings moved away from you.
then you have all this disposable income but nothing meaningful to spend it towards... ashes to ashes, dust to dust. but by then its too late.
this is just like kids who dont want to do their homework, dont want to study, want to eat candy all day... like yeah your enjoying yourself now but what about your future?
i dont know why people have placed anecdotes above logic
There are different ways of living life that can bring you happiness.
Some people are trying to fill a void in themselves by "building family" like it'll solve their problems, they usually make the worst parents.
Exactly
Having children is just part of nature.
The responsibilities and work is its own reward.
A lot of people feel the need to "pass something on" but what they leave their kids with is mostly just trauma and money
