We have to educate women to mute, tho. They often feel obligated to "be nice and friendly" and muting seems mean.
All of the "free speech" and "anti-censorship" rhetoric on here wears down their sense of self-preservation. They feel obliged to let anyone say anything.
it's not sexist to say that women are more liable to tolerate bullshit and end up in a bad situation because they don't want to accept the red flags and the danger signal because other reasons (usually conditioning)
i think that a social norm about women being trained in self defense both mental and physical would be a very important part of a corruption-resistant society - and it's really just a matter of a few good women stepping up and saying it to their peers enough...
sorry, not sorry, but women are more likely to seek to conform to the expectations they are hearing, so don't be so tame and shy... be nice but tell the girls to punch them back
I didn't say that was sexism. I said it was sexism to suggest women shouldn't use Nostr protocol and no one should develop tools to help them curate their feed and control access to their own data.
All the "go back to Instagram" "repeal the 19th Amendment" crap.
Not the least because it's complete nonsense to suggest that client development is over or that all clients have to be Twitter clones. I just helped some ladies find the private groups from Coracle, yesterday. There, problem solved.
It's also often the case that our male frens don't even see the stuff we're getting upset about because they've already muted the person we're arguing with. Ironic. 😂
yeah, it's gonna take some female leadership on this one... and probably there is good reason to think that there should be at least one or a few clients that focus on making it smooth, and putting the leaders front and center so they walk down the right track instead of winding up in a pileon of incels and perverts and crazymfs
Oh!
Yup. I'm sure that's the case lately.
I have no problem muting some random spouting stupid hateful shit. what hurts is when a person that you had cool interactions with turns out to be a bad egg.
it's like, damn dude, you were cool. I liked you. why you gotta be a racist/misogynist/transphobe/pineapple on pizza hater/etc?
Having this happen enough times that I no longer feel confident recommending my following list to people even though I extensively vet everyone before following them.
One time someone turned literally the same hour I did that 😅 and another time it was someone I had come to really trust and admire.
It’s sad stuff
super sad 😭😭😭
What is up with the 🍕 Nazis, fr? Automatic mute and report.
I often just put those in "mute time-out" because they're sometimes just ranting and saying stuff they're probably going to regret later, when they calm down. Autistic meltdown or something.
But some come out of time-out days later and are back in 10 minutes later. 😂 Like, can you not have a normal convo for 10 friggin minutes? 🤦♀️
