People have been fed the lie that their partner should be completely compatible, and not have any faults, issues, or nuances that would be a point of contention.
Unfortunately, people are flawed, and even people who are extremely similar on a lot of things have differing nuances.
The people that I get along with the most who I would say are the most similar to me still have a vast array of differences than me.
Idealism only gets you so far unfortunately.
Yes, I understand. That is a fat lie.
I would say that, compatible couples are the ones, similar or not, that choose to stay no matter what, are willing to have the tough conversations and work on an argument or differences not to win, but for the sake of both well being.
No one is perfect, and if we just bond because of "we agree on many things", soon the connection will fizzle I would say. I get along with people with same values, loyalty being the most important. We can be very different but if I know you have my back, same as I, that's what counts.
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Typically, it's fair to assume most couples have similar cultural, political, economic, and Religious backgrounds.
And of course that's not always the case either since I assume love can be a wildcard.
However, I think the ideal thing for a relationship is to work together to grow, and improve, focus on doing what you can to make the relationship work better for both partners.
it's impossible to relationship with a fantasy
People try to though.
They watch movies, and think Romance is just some magical process where things will always work, and be great but what the movies don't show is the nitty gritty, the ugly side of love.
The arguments, the tough times, the inconveniences, the misunderstandings, etc.
I'm sure there are relationships where it's the honeymoon phase indefinitely but I'd say for most people reality comes pretty quickly even with highly compatible partners.
i agree with much of you have here, though i wouldn't say that there's an ugly side to love. maybe i'm a little bit too much of a romantic, but i think all of love is beautiful.
because even happy couples hurt each other and break each other's hearts. but they don't run away, they heal each other and grow—and that is love and that is beautiful.
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I think that's what Jordan said, when he stated that couples work to grow together.
Some people at the first argument simply run... thinking that something is wrong. Emotional maturity will try to work on the issues, emotional immaturity will run looking for something better.
I also agree that some couples have the moon case endless, but those are special couples, once in a lifetime love. But they will of course have disagreements. We all do. It's how we manage them that makes a difference m
yep, agreed. ^.^
